I was in a club and I talked to a girl she seemed nice we talked for a while I bought her a couple of drinks.she gave me her number,I gave her my email. so as soon as I got home,I had like half a dozen emails from her.so I ignored them,I thought maybe I would call her the next day .so next morning there are all these emails about why I havent called her,then she says she has traced my email address and knows where I live!!!!!Im not a sissy,I know it sounds like it,but should I be worried about her,should I call her now or call the cops?
2006-08-17 20:02:30 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
last dude it took me 25 minutes to get home,i was supposed to have called her by then?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2006-08-18 02:07:29 · update #1
yes very worried.i had a stalker started on the internet and ended,with him trying to force me into a car in a mall parking lot.let the cops know
2006-08-19 04:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is keen and there is desperate and in this case the lady in question is the later!
I think next time you should be careful who you give out your e-mail to - I know this is easier said than done when your drunk and someone is being friendly.
Learn from this experience and take the ladies number and so the ball is in your court and you call the shots.
Spamming you with e-mails is not a good start - she'll learn!
Calling the police will do you no favours as she has only e-mailed you, has she told you your address or is she just threatening this to get a date?
2006-08-17 21:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Amazing Magenta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sir....
You have my sympathies but also my ADMIRATION.
You are one of the few male stalking victims with the balls to come out and tell people about it. Although females are much more likely to become obsessive about a man who spurns them then the other way round, so few men are willing to come forward to talk about it because of the effect they feel it has on the image.
At the same time women more than ever before are being encouraged to come out and talk about things like this so it APPEARS that men are usually the perpetrators when in fact a lot of evidence points to the exact OPPOSITE.
I have been a victim of serious stalking twice and of less serious obsessional behaviour four or five times in my life and it is not pleasant.
It is even less pleasant because people take a look at me and think "he's a big boy....he's got nothing to worry about" TOTALLY WRONG.
Women are just as capable as men (and through careful manipulation even more so) of inflcting damage on their victims.
Good luck to you.......report her to the police. Keep records of everything.
Viking xxx
2006-08-17 21:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Viking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a nut-job. Was she really drunk when you gave her your personal information? Could that have contributed to her stupidity?
At any rate,....I don't think I would encourage anymore contact with her-----and I certainly would NOT take her out on a date, or shag her, as others have suggested. If she behaved like that after initially meeting you. Just imagine what she may be capable of after a "real date" if she liked you?! Yikes! I would not want to find out.
Try to ignore her--and see if it works. If she persist, call your local police department, there are laws against stalking people.
You look like a real cutie-pie in your picture. There are lots of other women out there, who are sane, that would probably love to date you!
Good luck.
2006-08-18 07:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit desperate and neady to me, but you have to ask yourself why. Did you lead her along, or promise to contact her when you got home? Maybe she has been treated badly in the pass or feels neglected. Tracing someone's address via their email address is near impossible, first she would need to acquire your IP address which is quite strait forward but then she would need to access your ISP's database in order to aquire your home address which is not so strait forward without exstensive IT knowledge and software. I would say she is almost certainly bluffing with that one but if you promised to call her you should. Even if its to tell her how uncomfortable she has made you feel at least you have kept your word then.
2006-08-17 23:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by petedavey001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a bit of a bunny boiler to me!!! Ignore her shes being an idiot, maybe call her and just say that her actions are a bit much and to stop bothering you. If she carries on then go to the police and tell them she is harrasing you night and day and you want it to stop now.
Anyway apart from meeting nutty women in clubs how are you?
2006-08-17 22:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just email back saying your computer has been down and so you couldn't access your emails. Also tell her you lost her no. or took it down wrong and could she give it to you again. (even though you haven't) then call her to test the water - she may just have an odd sense of humour but then you will find out.
2006-08-17 20:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops! Shes sounds alittle crazy to me. Or maybe you just made such an impression on her she cant let you go! Either way, wish you the best of luck.
2006-08-17 20:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by eranjc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Block her email address so you dont recieve any emails. Dont text or phone so she cant get yout number adn then she has no way of contacting you....this leaving her to use her manic tendencies on herself or some other poor guy!
2006-08-17 20:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you bought her a couple drinks and gave her your e-mail, you must have been somewhat interested. Go on a date with her. If it don't have a good time, be up front with her, and ask her not to contact you anymore. If she still contacts you a lot after this, then it is stalking...
2006-08-18 02:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋