How can i get more freedom?

Question

I have been dating this guy for about a year now, and my mother knows that we have had sex, and we were very responsible about it, taking every percausion. Even so, my mother refuses to leave me alone with him. we are very in love (yes, i know what love it) and i just want to be alone with him. How can i get my mother to understand that we are not like having sex every time we see eachother, and to give us some privacy?

Answer 1

Your mother is just looking out for the best interest of u. You can ger her to give u more freedom by being open with her, tell her what is going on and how u feel about it and how u feel about ur bf. She'll understand cause she knows u r gonna sneak around and meet him anyway and she'll appreciate ur honesty.

Answer 2

Ok, try this next time she butts in.
Stand up STRAIGHT, and TALL. Look her dead the eyes.
Ask her a big huge open ended question about why she won't leave you alone or give you privacy or whatever the issue is.
Think about a good one that will require quite a big answer in order for you to be satisfied.
Then, look at her with an expectant face, and DON'T MOVE. Stare down. Be quiet, and wait for an answer.
The point is to show her that you are more comfortable with silence than she could ever be. If she gives you a couple words, keep staring. If she gives you a paragraph, keep staring. If she turns it around on you, acknowledge what she said, then ask a similar open ended question, and stare down again.
It's going to be very very uncomfortable. Yes, this is a confrontation. You need to establish your barriers and your own space. Screaming and yelling will NOT do this. Freaking out will not do this.
Forcing her, expecting her, and REQUIRING her to answer your questions as to why she is invading your space will show your power. If she is more comfortable than you are with silence, and can hold that eye contact better than you can, practice.
Another thing, believe from the bottom of your soul that she will give you the privacy. Your belief will overcome hers, and, with the right demonstration of power, she'll let up.
You can use this technique of stare down after open ended questions with anyone, but in other cases, be sure you thank them for their answer, otherwise you'll just be seen as a dick. You should also thank your mother for her answer, it will be more conducive to smoothing out things in the future so this can be forgotten about. Try to relate to how she is thinking, and trying to protect you, etc. But be FIRM that this is your space and your territory. Firm and loving are not opposites, they're very similar, actually.
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