i feel down as my father is retired and he is everything at home a loving ,supporting financial and moral and provider and someone who take care of us as children,i dont know how to cope with the situation ,any ideas please
though im working and and i earn enough and extra money but i feel something is missing..
2006-08-17 18:21:38 · 3 answers · asked by peaches an cream 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
try to understand this retired family member: dad, mom, etc. they are living the last many years of their lives. although sometimes bored, they may like things to do, to get a sense of being useful around the home. treasure these moments so one doesn't regret. that "i should have done this, or i should have done that' most adults get when they did not make effort to spend quality time with their parents are just excuses to make up for the 'what if's in their lives'. time, if organized well, and if one makes it, can always be made available to get anything accomplished --- even if it is to spend quality time, and think of ways to make the time at home useful. get him some plants to take care of, encourage him to make small trips around the area if he likes the out doors, bring him surprises. get to know him. since he knows you're an adult now, he can tell you more interesting stories not privy to in the past. just remember, as much as these yrs in the near future can be tough and empty, it is up to you to make it fuller because you're asking these questions. i haven't seen him post anything. hehe. you're still alive, & so is he. time flies. make a list of things you'd like to do with your dad. read barbara sher to sheer up. read some encouraging books on adventures or something you enjoy - music, arts, hunting, running, reading, etc. good luck. be cheerful.
2006-08-17 18:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by kizanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your problem? You should be happy because your Dad who has been a good provider and a loving person is now retired and enjoying the fruit of his hard work. It is now his turn to relax and enjoy. Don't you want him at home? The least you can do is show how you appreciate him for all that he has done for you and your siblings.
2006-08-18 01:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you upset..Your father has worked hard all his life and now is his chance to relax..You will get used to it ...just give it some time you will see
2006-08-18 01:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋