Ok I have never really gotten along with my adopted mother. Throughout my teenage years she always said "you have so much potential to be something" but then whatever I thought would be a good career choice, she disapproved of it. I rebelled alot in high school but I wasn't into drugs or drinking ....I was pretty much straight. I did get pregnant when I was 17...got married when I was 18...and am now separated. She's helped me out financially but it always comes with a lot of guilt that she makes me feel. My adopted grandmother is sick now (95 yrs old) and I take care of her in the morning so my mom can work. Before my ex left I took out a loan against my car so I could pay some bills that he owed. I figured I would pay it back cuz my mom was giving me $100 a week to help me out. But then she decided that she was going to take a month off of work....so now I'm basically screwed....point is...she told me today she's not gonna help me anymore. Am I wrong to be upset?
2006-08-17 18:18:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sure I've made some wrong choices in life...but she claims she loves her grandaughter and my baby is the one who's going to suffer. I've cried all day today because to me it seems like she doesn't really care about me...and she says all I care about is money...which could be true, but she's never been there for me in the past so I don't understand why she thinks we should be best friends now.
2006-08-17 18:20:12 · update #1
Adoption ruined MY life...why would I submit my baby to the same fate.
2006-08-17 18:25:45 · update #2
I am really sorry about what you are going through. I sure do understand about the parents tend to say they will do it for their children then much later they no longer want to do it for their children but I do not know why. No, you are not wrong to be upset. Do the best as you can about your money problems. You and your baby will be fine, someday.
2006-08-17 18:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by maxunn1234 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey, I hate to say this, but I think you've been driving your mother nuts. Under what logic is she suppose to help financially support you? And the minute she stops, you turn on her? In my opinion love comes without condition, especially when it comes to a child (even and adopted one). She also has the right to make you feel guilty. You've made some horrible decisions in life. No mother wants to see her child have a baby at 17 and get married at 18. Just because she's helped you out all this time, doesn't mean that she has to continue. After all you've put her through, she deserves some time off. You are an adult now, it's not her job to raise you anymore, and you made that pretty clear the minute you got pregnant and married. So stop expecting the allowance and get yourself a second job. Millions of single moms across the globe do this everyday without the support of their parents...why should you be different? You made your bed, now lie in it. If you don't like it, then you change it and grow up. It's time for you to start accepting responsibility for some of these so-called choices you've made.
2006-08-17 18:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're upset because she stopped giving you money when you f'ed up? Sound like you need to get a job and grow up. Give the baby up for adoption if you have to.
2006-08-17 18:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Black Sabbath 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are over 18 years old and it is not her responsibility to help you anymore. Even though she may care she still doesnt have the money to help you. So now you need to get a job and try to support your baby and yourself.
2006-08-17 20:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 01:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by mcthay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to grow up and take responsibility for your own life.It is not your adopted mother's job to support you for her entire life.
2006-08-17 18:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by hott.dawg™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you stand up on your own two feet and stop expecting other people to bail you out.
2006-08-17 18:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by parachute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy ****... ididn't even read your thing... for goodness sakes you don't need to tell us ur life story!!!
2006-08-17 18:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by Tho Deep ught 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get self-esteem training!
2006-08-17 18:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is only a mother...
2006-08-17 18:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by llbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋