Is it possible to lose certain emotions?

Question

I have had a series of BAD relationships in my past. The last one by far being the absolute worst.
Now I don't really have any real desire to want to ever be in a relationship again. I used to be really loving, caring and affectionate, but now I just don't care.
Sure, women are still attractive to me, but I'm beginning to look at them as a possble fling and not wanting to let any emotional ties through. Is this okay? bad? why?

Man, it's going to be hard to pick a best answer. Sounds like many of you are now or have been in my club before.
Great feedback guys. thanks

Answer 1

No its not possible. Once we feel an emotion that’s imprinted within us forever.
We do protect our delicate psyche by putting up walls to protect us from the pain we felt when one of these emotions turns to hurt.
If it happens enough we become a-social and seem to shut down altogether. Even in a sociopath the emotions are there, but so buried that they feel none, or at least very few, of them.
They start running on what they think is instinct, but are really driven by the results of emotional damage.
When we get our hearts broken, we feel violated in many ways.
Like when you go out to your car and find it broken into.
We opened ourselves up and feel our partner has broken in, in a way, ravaged around a bit and ether found something they wanted and took off. Even worse, they find us lacking, after ravaging around and then just take off. We hurt all the more because we don’t know the guy who breaks into our car, much less trust him, but did with the person loved. It's human nature to want the last word. We all want to be the one to call it off, and leave with self-righteous indignation, but when there are two or more people involved the others win at least half the time. We often are left as the ones with the broken windows, wondering what to do, so we build barriers to protect us till we are ready to open up again.
We had to love something at one time to hate it later. Try hating some guy who jumps the line at the store. Sure he makes you mad, and you think what a jerk, but what real impact did he have on your life overall. Not much; so we can dislike him and the type of person he is, but he hasn't been let in enough to do real emotional damage. People we love have.
Hopefully when we meet someone else later we feal we can open up to, the trust comes back. Not in them, but in out selves that we won't let disappointment take us over again. It still might, but the openness is what we strive for. Love doesn’t exist without it as well as faith that we will be able to live thru the times we fail.
We always do, but in the trying times of hurt raw emotions we all wonder how we can.
Love can change to hate, but hate and love can't live in the same house. Happiness turns to sorrow, but converts back with time.
Unfortunately patience isn't a natural part of our nature, we have to work on that one.
We are never alone, we all share all these things. What we need is more people helping each other thru them.

Answer 2

This is normal......as u said uve had bad relationships in the past so this is your bodies way of putting up a wall so that you cant get hurt again. When enough time has gone by for u to heal you will begin to feel the caring and affectionate feelings you once had again. But until then dont just have "flings", just think, one of those flings may fall in love with u and u will hurt her just as you have been hurt and it was not her fault. Maybe u should just spend some time alone until u recover a little.

Answer 3

It's probably a bad thing because you're just avoiding emotions; they're going to come up later and in unexpected ways. It's better to just deal with them now.

Let's face it, you'll probably date again. Just be open to it, you don't have to actively avoid or pursue anything but maybe next time you should steer towards a different type of person. Maybe you're looking for love in the wrong crowd. Or maybe you need to grow before your next relationship?

Answer 4

Don't let a bad relationship ( we all have them ) make you not
want to be with a girl steady someday. Just be more choosy
next time around. Yes, have your emotions, and show them.....
That's what makes us HUMAN. Wer'e not robots, ya know ??
So try to figure out your patterns or what went wrong .....and just
LEARN from ur mistakes. Good Luck 2 U.....( smiley face)

Answer 5

No it's not o.k. First of all you don't just feel this way just because. Something or someone moled you that way. I would say. Take it slow and find your self first. Before you go in another relationship. Because if not you probably going to end up just as you are feeling right now. SMILE !

Answer 6

that is bad, just take ur time. give urself a break, and fidn urself again. give urself time to find urself, be u (i mean the old u) and then maybe then u might find the right person. just cuz it didnt work out in the past ones doesnt mean u have to give up. u could miss the right girl and thats why its bad. just give urself another chance, if it doesnt work out then move on, find another person that it may work out with, u know?

Answer 7

It sounds like you just need to take a break from women for awhile and then they will appeal to you again.Why do you keep getting in these kind of chaotic relationships? I would take a look at that...

Answer 8

Yes

Answer 9

ya that happens alot and im sorry it has happened to you being in a relationship is a great thing to experience but unfortunately there are things that come in our way and it is in no way wrong if that is how you truely feel

Answer 10

Its probably just a phase, if you meet the right person, they may be able to chip away at your walls. Hang in there!