my son getting married next year.?

Question

I'm not sure what i'm subpost to buy. as the groom mother. please no smart answers. be honest. if you don't know please don't answer. thank you.

Answer 1

The groom's parents traditionally only pay for the rehearsal dinner and then the outfits that they are going to wear the day of the wedding as well as a wedding present for the couple. The groom himself would traditionally pay for her engagement ring, her wedding band, the honeymoon and the marriage license. However, what happens traditionally does not necessarily mean it will happen. The best thing to do is sit down with your son and his fiancee and discuss this with them.

Answer 2

As far as your contribution to the wedding, the groom's parents traditionally pay for the rehearsal dinner and the flowers for the ceremony. And then you would also give a gift to the bride and groom which is usually money when it comes from the parents. If the bride's parents don't have as much money and if you can afford to help out with the costs of the reception, then you can offer to contribute to some of the costs. Sometimes the groom's parents will pay for the alcohol. But you're not obligated to do more than the rehearsal dinner and the flowers.

Answer 3

The grooms family is suppose to pitch in for transportation of guests, honeymoon, rehersal dinner and groom/attendants attire according to the June 2005 issue of Bride's magazine. However these days grooms and brides parents are 50/50 because many feel that each of their children are getting married so why should one set of parents burden the cost. Contribute what you can (and what your son know you can), believe me he knows or has a good idea of what you can contribute. He might feel weird if you contribute more than you are able and might not feel like his big day isn't special to you if you spend very little. Tricky! Good luck!

Answer 4

Give your son whatever amount of money you can and let the couple do with it as they please, that way you can avoid conflict and I'm sure they will appreciate it. Although, it is usually up to the groom's family to arrange and pay for the rehearsal dinner, but talk to the couple and see what they want to do. Communication is key, ask them straight out, tell them, I have $___ that you can have and that has to include the rehearsal dinner. Traditionally the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner, the alcohol for the reception and the bride's bouquet and some other flowers. My mom gave me money for my wedding and she gave my brother the exact same amount a couple of years later when he got married. It was what she could afford, basically it covered the food at both of our weddings. No one should go into debt for a wedding and who pays for what is becoming more flexible. My parent's in addition to giving us cash for the wedding, paid for our rehearsal dinner. My brother's rehearsal dinner was great we had a huge cookout in my mom's backyard. My rehearsal dinner was in my mom's kitchen (I got married in December) and that was great too, we did all the food ourselves for both dinners. Basically, what it comes down to is, give what you can, you're a good mom.

Answer 5

I JUST had a wedding, and my brother is getting married in 2 months-- with so many weddings I'm a pro at this.

Traditionally-- the groom's family pays for most the flowers (not the bouquets) and the rehersal dinner (the groomsmen pay for their own tuxes-- just like the bridesmaids buy their own gowns) and the honey moon.

However-- In this day in age who pays for what is all up to the situation. My husbands family just gave us a check to go towards wedding expenses, and then had a rehersal dinner in their backyard (very affordable) my parents paid for most of the wedding, and my husband and I filled in the rest.

The most important thing is to figure out how much you can/ and are willing to spend-- then talk to your son and find out what he and his fiancee need and/or expect and what is actually possible.

It would be good if they had talked to the brides parents first as they usually foot most of the bill-- and find out how much they are contributing.

Mostly-- just support your son and his fiancee and be there for them to help them celebrate!!

oh-- and get a killer dress for the wedding (just not in white!)

Answer 6

In general, the family of the groom is responsible for the tuxedos, the drinks at the reception, and the Limo. Sometimes they also spring for the honeymoon. If rehersals require money, they may or may not pay for them, depending on how the family of the bride is laid out.

Remeber, this is "Her" big day, so don't get in the way of her momma's plans. If she wants to do something her way, let her. If you want to help with more than what I've mentioned here, do so in cash.

Answer 7

Are you talking a gift or what to pay for for the wedding?
If you are talking about the wedding it is tradition for the grooms family to pay for the bar and flower and rehersal dinner!
But in this day and age thing all different! My parents paid for half of my brother wedding and his wife parents paid for the other half! It just depends on what you would like to contribute to the wedding!
If you are talking about a gift, get them something off their gift register, do what you can afford!

Answer 8

Normally grooms parents host the wedding rehearsal dinner. As for gifts something very special how about if you something from your wedding like a hand bag, earrings that's something special.For the bride to be able to wear the earrings from the day you where married. that should be able to cover something old for the bride and she will love you where able to contribute to her special day and your son will love the fact you actually contributed to his wife's special day.I mean there special day.

Answer 9

Normally you pay for the rehearsal dinner, the rings, and the honeymoon. That is a big gift! If you aren't paying for those I would suggest a cash donation or something sentimental that you got for your wedding. My mother's parents gave her a cash donation to pay for part of the wedding and my father's parents gave them a dining set that was my dad's grandmother's.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

Anything you VOLUNTEER to contribute, you may contribute. the main responsibility of the wedding planning and payment falls on the couple themselves. They are adults and should pay for their own wedding unless any parents volunteer some help.