So, I'm a 15 year old girl, i gave one of my best guy friends a bj the other night, and i was drunk, he says he wasn't. so it was the same day he broke up with his gf. i feel bad, because i'm friends with her. but now we hold hands, and he acts like he wants to be with me, and he says he wont do anything with anyone else, but he also says he wants to be single. What does he really think? does he just want an easy girl to have fun iwth? i don't know, but i don't want to be that. what should i do?
2006-08-17 17:12:56 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He knows or thinks you are easy because of what you already did. If he wanted to be with you he already would have before the bj. Leave him alone.
2006-08-17 17:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the BJs but doesn't want the commitment. He'll only have sex with you until he finds someone else who'll have sex with him. You're a friend with benefits. Was that the first BJ you gave? Or have you been doing it for a while? By the way, BJs are also called felatio.
The best thing you can do about this is to stop having any kind of sex until you're older. And why are you getting drunk at 15?
2006-08-17 17:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; I guess the real answer is not to drink, or Puff!!
In fact, Don't Do Drugs [DDD]. Period!
ANY drugs!
They take away personal control of your own body.
Where you 2 really are with this relationship, w/o seeing you together, is anyone's guess!
It is one of those things that remains to be seen.
But. let's put it this way:
How many relationships that begin so casually actually last any distance??
And, at only 15, probably NO ONE you go out with at this stage will mean anything permanent to you in the long run!
So, don't get too carried away or serious about it.
But, having said all that, I suggest you tell him that you were drunk last time, and you don't want to continue casual sex, but save yourself for the real thing in years to come.
2006-08-17 17:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait, ur 15 ... and got drunk? damn, that's sad. im sorry to say that im younger than you and act waay more responsibly. I'm not going to front like i've never had anything to drink before, but i know how to control myself and i have limits. You're lucky you just got talked into giving him a bj, i kno plenty of guys who would rape a drunk girl if they got a chance. this guy took advantage of you. i would break things off with him right now, for your physical and emotional safety.
2006-08-17 17:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he just wants to be single then he is still looking for the right one. Sounds like he wants you around till he finds her. You didn't say how old the guy was. You are way to young to be drunk. But if he wont say he's your boyfriend - he's using you.
2006-08-17 17:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by daybreakxoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study, get good grades, apply for colleges. I know these aren't exactly the things you wanna do right now but trust me, boys have a loooong way to go before they decide they want to settle down. Say you two do hook up, then what? He turns 18 and wants to start hittin the clubs, he turns 21 then wants to start hittin the bars or Vegas... Don't put yourself through the pain of even worrying about this 1 boy. There's plenty of them out there for you to try. There is nothing wrong with hooking up with alot of boys out there before you decide to settle down. As long as you stay safe and don't get knocked up.
2006-08-17 17:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by 00jag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That aint a real good situation. He just wants a sex buddy and not a relationship and thats not what relationships are about. Sex is a benefit to bring two people into one not just doin that for tha hell of it. Your a big girl so just be safe and dont let yourself go through the pain so many girls have too.
2006-08-17 17:21:45 · answer #7 · answered by DustinHastings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason it is illegal for minors to drink. Because as hard as it is for an adult to handle their alcohol, it's even harder for a 15yr old. Plus you don't know the consequences of your actions, obviously.
That being said, do you want to be with this guy? I wouldn't personally go for it, because you don't want to hurt your female friend's feelings. Explain this to him, hopefully he understands.
In the future, don't put yourself in a situation where you won't be in complete control of yourself.
2006-08-17 17:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have learnt a valuable lesson about guys early in life. when he says he doesnt wants to be single, he is saying i want to be able to mess around with heaps of girls, including you. you already went down on him pretty easily and of course he is gonna think that he can get more with you. thats why he broke up with the other girl. end it with him if you wnat it to be more serious, cos that will never happen. hope i helped
2006-08-17 17:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he just wants a easy girl who is always available. My suggestion is not to get stuck with this guy. Good luck to you and I hope that you make the right decision for yourself.
2006-08-17 17:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by JJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋