I talk to old men all the time about women and relationships. Hey most of them have been married for over 50 years. Gotta know something. I use their advice alot. I still love my ex gf very much. We broke up while still in love with one another. Complicated issues on her part dealing with her past. The older gentlemen tell me to be patient with her and show her respect by allowing her to come to terms with her demons in her own time. they tell me to continually show her I care eventhough we are not together anymore. One man said to me that " A thousand NO's get wipped away by a single YES." Be patient and not push her and she will come back when she cleans her mind up. They call it persistace. How many think that is true?
2006-08-17 17:11:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, they're right, it's true.
What they didn't mention was the time factor. Demons from the past are also persistent. They take time and sometimes many hours with a shrink to be exorcized.
How long are you willing to wait? It might be years.
Seriously- Move on. Live your life. Don't hesitate to go out and have fun without her. Don't hesitate to meet someone new. Don't stop yourself from caring for someone else.
You still need to keep growing, as a man and as a human. If the feelings you describe exist with such intensity, she'll look you up one day. Maybe you'll be available. Maybe she'll be okay by then. Maybe it'll work out between you.
Or, maybe not. Maybe you'll meet someone better who is without demons. Maybe you'll grow in a different direction and realize what you really need is someone completely different than her.
Don't stop living to wait for her to fix herself. You could be waiting a very long time, and then maybe you'll have issues of your own.
Life was meant to be lived to the fullest. If the time comes when you and she can give it another go, so be it. If not, that's okay too. But realize, you can't be living for someone who's not there with you. It'll drive you nuts.
Good Luck with it all. Find strength within yourself to move on, and should things work out with her down the road, you'll be stronger and even better prepared to deal with her. Either way, with her or without her, you'll be okay.
2006-08-17 18:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't really answer since I don't have a lot of details, such as - how long has this been going on? ages? are these really big issues shes dealing with from her past? So without those, I would have to say, I can't really give you a good answer, but I would guess that even if she does come to you, there will be difficulties. If you are prepared to deal with them then your patience will pay off.
2006-08-18 00:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by onehot_mama23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True to a very great extent...but, the danger here is that she wasn't being entirely truthful with you when she left...may have been wanting to move on and didn't have the heart to lay it on the line. Be very careful, you have already been hurt, don't set yourself up for a bruising. Women are very different than men..they are more direct. Learn to read body language and you will have your answer. Good luck
2006-08-18 00:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience is truly a vertue and the good will come to those who wait,do not rush life for it is already the gift which is only given to each of us for a short time but love is said to last forever.
David
2006-08-18 00:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that this is a touchy situation. I would say if you and her don't get back with one another you will always be very fawn of her. I wouldn't stick around, life is to short. Go on with your life before you miss the next train as they say.
2006-08-18 00:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you both are really in love then YES it is true. I think you are wise yourself to ask older men advice they have learned by their mistakes and can help you advoid them or even help resolve them.
2006-08-18 00:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by sammy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are right. If you guys are still in love...is just a matter of time for you to go back together..if is meant to be it will be.
2006-08-18 00:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by There! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if its true but iv been waiting for a little less than a year and i think im gonna stop tryn finally......ok maybe not i still love her
2006-08-18 00:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by texas boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do I think when she get her stuff figured out she will see you were there no matter what.
2006-08-18 00:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that persistance or obsession? You should know better.
2006-08-18 00:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Chicagoan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋