My lover isn't being so lovey anymore. She's wild and dynamic, and very fickle in general, but also still tells me she loves me. She's had plenty of opportunities to get rid of me, but doesn't. She was already attracted to me before I lost some weight and toned up a little, but now that I have, she seems to be less attracted to me. We've been through a LOT together, I've helped her through some really tough stuff, and even fulfilled chunks of her wishlist that she never thought she'd see. She claims to enjoy our sex, she's honest when she doesn't orgasm so I know she's telling the truth when she usually says she does, and we haven't had any real fights or anything. So . . .
Women, if you were this girl in this situation, what would cause you to stop being into me? Just list a few things for me, if you would.
2006-08-17 16:48:51 · 12 answers · asked by nex_nox_noctus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
-its to perfect hence boredom sets in
-worried about where this has to go to next
-found somone else
-is she heavy? She may be a bit resentful of your new found hot bod
But mostly it could be nothing at all! We all have own down times, we all have moments things are tough....just ask her!
2006-08-17 16:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
She probably does love you. And im sure if she wanted to get rid of you she would of. Sometimes females actually sit down and think about all the things that are going on around them and in their realtionships something that most men dont do. And you say that you have helped her in some tough stuff and that you have also helped fill her wishlist. Maybe just maybe she is testing you i personally have done that to see if something was to good to be true, they say everyone has a little bad in them so maybe thats whats she is lookin for just a little bit of bad and she wants to see how you react to the situation. Try talkin to her about it.
2006-08-18 00:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by horrible wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought that maybe she is feeling insecure. This may not have anything to do with u, maybe she is not feeling that she is not good enough for u since u recently lost weight and are looking better. You need to reassure her that she is still sexy and she turns u on. Forplay is the best way to her to loosen up and relax in bed. Maybe take a trip to a adult toy store together. Complement her and not just whenu want sex, but anytime. We women love when guys notice the smallest things. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 23:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may not be a woman, but I do seem to have a few additional years of experience.
You say lover, but it sound more like you mean "sex partner" or "romantic attachment." The problem with sex is that it can become just a means of physical release and does not have to be a means of emotional expression.
As far as romance as opposed to love, time will always tell. Romance always fades with time. True love does not. If this is just a romantic relationship, find out before someone gets their heart broken.
2006-08-18 20:14:57 · answer #4 · answered by Richard 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
this happens alot when a someone in a relationship makes a change for the better in their body and appearance. she still cares for and all, she is just feeling a little insecure now. she may feel that you have this new found confidence cos of your body and that you may look for something better now and cheat on her. so her defense mechanism has kicked in to counter what you may do. if you are happy with her, re-assure her that you will always be with her, and no such thing could ever happen
2006-08-17 23:56:23 · answer #5 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you never know with these things. you have to seriously pose this question to her. did you get a new job or something? or it could be that you are thinking way too much and she really loves you. sometimes people get too wrapped up in themselves, like with work or school, and they forget that their lover needs some attention. I bet if you tell her how you're feeling she'll say I'm sorry baby, and make a change.
2006-08-17 23:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Monique C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is feeling a little jealous, or insecure. Just sit down with her and tell her how you feel and if there is anything going on that the two of you need to discuss. Honesty is always best!
2006-08-17 23:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by doicu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look. When a couple has been together for a long time, you can't expect things to be the same as they were when you first got together. As long as she ain't cheating, don't worry about it. Nobody keeps the same looks forever. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you, though.
2006-08-17 23:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by IthinkFramptonisstillahottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy who won't leave you alone sometimes has caused breakups for me in the past. i need SOME alone time. and the guy i was with was showing up uninvited at the same time every single day and it was sweet at first, but then it just got really annoying. maybe try and give your girlfriend a little space.
2006-08-17 23:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a typical nervous female. Give her time to adjust to the new, thinner you. She's just scared you are looking for someone else....or she is afraid you are going to leave her.....
Women actually care if you leave them. Isn't that weird?
2006-08-17 23:54:54 · answer #10 · answered by evilposterchild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋