Can jealousy be used as a wake up call?

Question

I've been in love with her since I met her in 6th grade.She became my best friend and we went out in 7th grade for a little while. She aknowledges that I love her and tells me that it makes her feel great, but she doesn't want a relationship right now. I never had strong feelings for another girl other than her. As time has passed (almost 6 years), I feel as though she has become less aware of how much I love her despite my attempts to show her. It's as if she isn't affected by my feelings anymore. Do you think if I get involved with other girls and pursue a relationship with someone else, it will act as a wake up call and she will fall in love with me? Can jealousy be used to get her to realize that my love mattered and get her to fall for me?

Answer 1

If you really have to resort to that, forget about it. Feelings change. Hers for you might be gone.

Answer 2

I think a popular response might be for you to move on after six years. However, I understand that love is not something that can be controlled, and that sometimes it will never go away. That is a special kind of love and it is very real. Going out with someone else may make her jealous, but I think honestly that it would backfire and send her the signal that you had finally moved on. I think a better approach would be to send her (granted this is her thing) some flower or some chocolates with a note requesting she go out to dinner with you at some (nice) restaurant. You can put in there that it's not necessarily a date, just a "hangout" that you had something on your mind to discuss with her. If she turns you down you may realize that she is really not into you and may never be. If she says yes, just honestly bring up your feelings. Not in a stalkish sort of way, but just explain how you have felt about her since 6th grade. Drop (without too much emphasis) small details about her or things in you guys's past that she would never believed that you could have remembered about her from so long ago. (Girls go CRAZY over guys remembering special things from a long time ago). Just things that you loved about her. Tell her that if there is no hope for you guys then to just be honest with you, but if there is hope, that you are there to make her the happiest girl alive. If she doesn't want one right now, tell her is there any hope if you WAIT for her. This question, if anything, will tell you what you need to know.

Whatever method you use to talk with her, just be honest with her about how you feel, and ask her about her feelings. Don't keep them hidden within you forever.

Answer 3

Just take your time,call her sometimes but don"t ask her out its ok to just say how have you been doing,a true love is not made it takes time,and sure it is ok to have other girls as friends just as it is ok for her to have guy friends,never try to make someone love you it seems to be a fabricated approach be patient good things come to those who wait.

Answer 4

I think it may do dude.. Like it'll maybe let u know if she really loves you or just avoiding being serious with u..

try it, u may actually even love another girl who suits u better.. Who knows??

anyway.. Good Luck

Answer 5

I would have to say that if she hasn't realized what she is missing out on in the past 6 yrs that has passd by.....another 6 yrs won't matter either. So my answer is no to this one. Dude she just isn't digging ya or she would have atleast showed some interest in you. Move on.

Answer 6

sometimes it works and sometimes it don't. but in the long run it wouldn't be fare for the other girl. you would be using her. and she will be hurt. and you will loose out all the way around. just go and tell her how you feel. and take what ever answer.she gives you. and move on.