After giving birth to your second child how many of you said no more?

Question

My son will be two weeks old Saturday and before he was born I wanted four kids. I have a soon to be two year daughter, she is my first.

Anyway, ever since my son was born I have times when I know I want to have one more, but I also have times when I want to say I am done, yet at the same time miss the fact that I will never get to experience being pregnant again. Has anyone else went through this? Any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Before I was married, I wanted 4-5 kids. After I had my second child, I felt so exhausted that I was sure I didn't want any more. When she was about 1 1/2, I became pregnant with # 3. I felt slightly disappointed. I didn't think that I could handle any more children. Now that my third child is here, I feel like I may want 4-5. I have always heard that # 2 is harder than # 3. I think that is true. If you don't have any more, you will always wonder if you made the right decision. It is never a bad decision to bring another life into the world. :)

Answer 2

I'm going through this right now! My two boys are 2 1/2 and 13 months. My husband and I never actually said "no more", but we did decide to wait until our older son was in kindergarten before we start trying.

Every month when I ovulate, I get a SERIOUS case of baby fever. I really, really miss being pregnant (except for the fact that I wish I'd had a catheter because I was spending a good deal of my day peeing, lol).

I usually just wait for the hormones to pass and then I start thinking clearly again. I realize that hey...they're sleeping through the night now! Soon our older son will be out of diapers. We just weaned the baby off of formula. Things are going OK now...do we really want to have another one and start all over again with the sleepless nights, expensive formula, colicky screaming? HELL YEAH! :D

We will wait though. Occasionally common sense does kick in and I realize that it's best for us to wait. Not only emotionally, but financially.

Answer 3

Well your hormones are still fluxuating so I would say wait at least a year before you do anything permanent (tubal ligation, etc) You don't want to change your mind when it is too late. They say that after the first two it's all smooth sailing from there...I personally don't want to find out if that is true or not. After my second was born I got an IUD, and when it expires in 2012 I will either get my tubes tied or have another one put in. Two is plenty for me. I can afford two mentally, emotionally and financially, and besides I like even numbers, and no way would I want four. So this was a good stopping point.

Answer 4

I agree that this would desire to have been pronounced before getting married. yet we don't comprehend the whole tale or circumstances and that's no longer the component when you consider which you're here now! i think of you will desire to attend till you have this toddler to come again to a call. as a results of fact they might exchange human beings's minds rather actual. working example, i assumed i needed a brilliant kin. Then I had one and found out how lots artwork it is! i've got desperate on a lots smaller kin now! The very LEAST your husband ought to do is comprehend you as somebody and not only somebody who is going to have all his little ones. he's not the only individual who gets a say in this. If one individual does not desire a newborn then it relatively is no longer a compromise difficulty, it purely does not artwork that way. tell your husband you like some extra time to think of approximately issues as quickly as the toddler is born, and you like a while to swap as a mom and a kin of three somewhat than bounce into 4 good away. He can't rigidity you to have a toddler. In my own opinion there is not any psychological subject to having an only newborn, it is an previous stigma it is finally unfaithful. possibly they gained't have the conflict decision skills like a individual with siblings would (in spite of each and every thing that sibling opposition) yet it is approximately it. I do appreciate having that sibling relationship with my sister nevertheless. and of path, if i'm leaning extra in direction of the feminist component of issues you are the only which would be wearing the toddler, having the toddler, and doing the main being concerned of the toddler so your vote would desire to win anyhow.

Answer 5

I also said after my second child that I wanted no more. My first was born then I had my second 13 months later. I tried to have my tubes tied but the docotr refused. I am glad I didn't. I now I have 4 beautiful children. I think maybe when you have them so close together this feeling is normal. You feel overwhelmed and like a baby machine. It is very hard having two small children. Two in diapers maybe even bottles. But this will pass, quicker than you think. For me that overwhelmed feeling wore off and I had a third and a fourth. I greatly aprreciate that doctor who refused to tie my tubes.

Answer 6

I said no more after each of my 3- after the 3rd, I got my tubes tied.

Wait a while, like when your son is 2 or 3, and then decide if you want another. We decided LONG before I was even pregnant the 3rd time that we wanted 3 kids, and we stopped at 3. But, deciding after just coming off a pregnancy, and labor, it's going to be more emotionally decided.

Answer 7

i have 2 kids right now ages 4 in a half and almost a year old my husband and i decided taht i want to try for 1 or 2 more then i would gladly at delivery have a c section and get tubal done until thien thats not happening .. i am like u i haeing second thoughts about the tubal .. after im done .. what if u want more after its then then its too late ... i dont know theres too many choices out there .. one word of advice .... follow ur heart and ur own mentaliity ... god bless u and good luck ...

Answer 8

Well, I had my tubes tied after my second, born 8 months ago. My first child is 11 1/2 and this baby was a miracle. However, since I am now 39, we felt it was a good time to stop. Good luck with your decision!

Answer 9

I had my tubes tied after givng birth to my second. (They are a year and a half apart) I knew before the second one was born that I didn't want anymore. For me personally I believe in population control. I don't believe you should have more children than would replace you when you die (2 children = my husband and I when we die KWIM?) I also just don't think I could handle more than 2 children. Right now my husband can take one and I can take the other, if we were to add a third we would be outnumbered. Plus you have that whole middle children syndrome, it just wasn't for us. Good luck with your decision adn congratulations.

Answer 10

Right now it's the hormones talking - wait a few months or more -then decide if you want any more children.
I had four boys in just over five years and I almost died after I delivered my first. After that I didn't think I was going to have any more but I was blessed three more times.
If you start feeling blue (post partum depression) go see your DR. right away.