im hurt because i really loved him...and i cant avoid him because hes my best friends brother...and i just dont know what to do
2006-08-17 15:53:58 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just have to tolerate it, even though it will be hard since you loved him soo much. I mean it might hurt about seeing him with his ex and just overall breaking up with you.
Just try to live life now, without worrying or thinking about getting involved in a relationship, unless you see a good guy or something, or meet. Remember hang out with your friends, friends are great, they can make you feel better, and well some friends also make you feel very special, and really care about you.
He wasnt the right guy, so yeah, oh well of course it sucks, but just move on. Hopefully everything goes well for you, sis.
-Edward
2006-08-17 16:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is ignore him. It doesn't mean anything yet if he's talking to his ex. Don't jump to conclusions. Anyways, you should forget about him. Try to. It will take time, girl, I know. Maybe you should go out with some of your homiesato the movies, park, pool, etc. Something that will take your mind off him. You can just sit there and just watch yourself hurting and weep. The more you think about it, the more bad you are going to feel inside. I suggest you try to distract yourself from the pain. Talk to new people. He may be your first love, but you'll have another in life. Be strong, girl. You'll get through this. Go out and have some fun, girl. I wish you the best. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 16:07:08 · answer #2 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be hurt and upset for a while. But it will be ok. Seriously. Better to find out your best friends brother is a jerko now then later. Some guys do a hook up right away with another girl after a break up. It does not matter who initiated it. Or, he decided he still really has feelings for his ex. You cannot fault a person for that. Sometimes we get hurt. One day you will wake up, and some man out there is going to look mighty fine to you. You will realize hey, I am so over him! Give yourself some time. Keep the good memories and learning experience. Take care.
2006-08-17 16:02:06 · answer #3 · answered by yowhatsup2day 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already talking to his ex then he sounds like an asshole. In time you're feelings of hurt will start to fade and you will find someone who will treat you right and give you the respect you deserve.
It would be hard him being your brothers best mate but maybe if you know you are going to see him go and see a friend and keep yourself busy.
Seeing him all the time won't help.
2006-08-17 16:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by brooksta3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that if he's willing to do this to you and put you through this pain, then he is not treating you correctly and doesn't deserve you. I know that's not what you want to hear right not, but it could very well be what you need to hear. And by 'deserve' I don't mean his money or materialistic things, I mean his character and quality of person. No one deserves to be treated this way. I know that you're heart broken right now (believe me, I've definitely been there before), but it will get better. You must first realize that you, as a human being and as a woman, do not deserve that. Go out and find a better man. Good luck!!
2006-08-17 16:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by tcpic2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and be rid of him. There's always someone better and brighter just around the corner. Once a split has occurred, it will hurt for awhile or course, but if he or she came back, the offense would always remain a barrier between you. Life is an emotional roller-coaster, - you're just on a downhill for the moment. The upside is, just think of all the great possibilities waiting for you to discover them.
2006-08-17 16:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by dreamchsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must have been working up to the breakup in his mind for quite awhile, so to you it is fresh but to him it is already old news. there is nothing to 'do'. In the scheme of things you will have several relationships before finding Mister Right. And once you are with Mr. Right you will look back on this and it will matter very little to you. So for now, look forward, not backward. Your ex is already doing this. It will hurt for awhile and I'm sorry you got hurt.
2006-08-17 16:01:21 · answer #7 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal. Take sometimes you can find real love.
Tomorrow is always a new start. Have some good book to read, or go out shopping something you really like.
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2006-08-17 16:00:20 · answer #8 · answered by samdadnow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does he and the ex talk about? Do you mean they're back together? If so, you might had been the rebound gf. If they were just talking as friends, there is hope that you can be still be with him as a friend when you do not want him as a bf anymore.
2006-08-17 15:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by Chicagoan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be okay. You'll find someone else. Right now focus on school! I kinda get the feeling your young. He is playing the field you need to stir clear of him. Young men often have more than one woman and sometimes are very careless with our feelings. Your brother should distance him from you.
2006-08-17 16:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by LJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋