my dog name sam that i had for 12 years died in my arms 2 mornings ago and i can't get over the fact that she is gone. i mean i loved her as much as i love my son.. and i loved her so much that i got her cremated and i am supposted to get her ashes back friday.. but it hurts so bad and i don't know how to make the pain of losing her go away.. and the fact that i don't know if she was in pain when she died.. and just watching her die in my arm that took the cake.. please help me i need idea's other than getting a new dog
2006-08-17 15:51:28 · 19 answers · asked by Melinda D 3 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Wait on getting another dog. You need time to grieve. I am sure I will be like you when my dog Trixie dies. I will get her cremated too. Your dog was old and at least you had her for 12 years. I am sure she is still with you. I have seen shows where the dog is seen by people who have lost a dog. Place her ashes on a table with a candle and everyday you can pray for her to go to the other side. Like everything, we must all die one day. Heck my mom is 83 and she has cancer. We are all upset and are praying for her so think of me and how I must feel when you get down.....I am worse off...God Bless you...
2006-08-17 16:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by mysticmoonprincess01 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my dog, also named Sam, several years ago and I don't think there's anything you can do this soon. I do know that in a while you'll be able to remember Sam with a smile - you'll be able to think about all the fun you had, the silly things he did and everything that made him so special to you. You can also be comforted in knowing that he died with you, not in a vet's office, and that you and Sam had a lot of years together.
You'll know when you're ready for a new dog. You have to have time to grieve for Sam first. When you're ready, you'll get another one, not as a replacement, but as a new companion.
2006-08-17 16:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 5 years ago my German Shepherd died, and she was 12 years old, but had hip problems, arthritis, and age complications. I loved her so very much and I knew from past experience the only thing to do that my parents had taught me years ago, was to give my love to another dog that needs love. My daughter at the time asked me to go to her church since they were having a mother daughter get together, and there I met a woman that had a black German Shepherd mix, that she was unable to keep any longer, and was looking for a good home for him. I told her I was interested, and went over her home for a visit, and her dog instantly ran to me as though he knew me for ever! I loved him when he looked up at me with those big sad brown eyes and in a way spoke to me that I just had to take him! He is now 6 years old, and we are inseparable! I will never forget my dog Kristy that died, but Knight came to my rescue, and filled that emptiness I had, and proved to me that we both needed each other!! Hope you find that right dog to make you whole again, hes out there somewhere !
2006-08-17 16:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How wonderful for your pet of 12 years, she died in your arms! Many of us know the pain of losing a best friend and it hurts very much. I can only say that in time the hurt is replaced by the fond memories we hold in our hearts of our pets. So someday you will look back at the good memories and cherish that you were with her when she died. Many animals don't have that comfort when they die, God blessed you by keeping you with her until the end.
I'm sooooooo sorry for your loss.
2006-08-17 16:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by trusport 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry to hear about your loss...it takes a lot of time to get over a pet passing away...my dog died a year ago last saturday and i still think about her all the time...she was only five years old and happened unexpetedly...but like you i was holding her when she went...it was the hardest thing i ever had to do...i had her buried in her favorite spot to lay outside and for a long time i went to say good-night to her and talked to her like she was still with me...then about eight months after she passed i decided it was time for another puppy...at first when my new puppy (Nilla) was playing outside she would stop at the spot where Belle is buried and just kind of stand there for a little while...then one day Nilla took her favorite toy outside and put it on top of Belle's grave and never touched it again...the toy even gets moved and put back whenever the lawn has to be mowed! Nilla put her toy there about three months ago and it is still there! animals have a strange sixth sense...and even though your sam is no longer physically with you i'm sure she is watching over you. I hope you find your peace.
2006-08-17 16:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no replacing your dog sam .In time you well start to. feel better.Every once in a while after that time you will be sad again.Things may not be the same but remmember one thing you gave him a good life of love and some people never get that and there people.If you ever get a new dog it will be a different life and personality and will not be there to replace your old one.
2006-08-17 16:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by deedee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 15 I lost a dog that I had since I was 4 and still to this day, btw I am 39, I still think of her and how she helped me go through my tween years. To get over the loss is almost at times like that of a member of your family because for those years your dog was a member of your family. Two days is not enough time but over time you will get on with your life but like me you might get a smile when you think of your beloved pet.
2006-08-17 16:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by searcher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The same thing happened to me with my poodle I was so sad. I got another dog and it helped having it around needing love, sounds like your dog was old you have to realize it was probably hurting and you would not want Sam to hurt so love him enough to let him go and know he is not suffering anymore and he love you and does not want to see you sad so get another dog when you are ready, adopt one that really needs a good home in honor of Sam. God bless you.
2006-08-17 15:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by mustang.suzy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She loved you too. You were her mother and there's no better way for her to die than in your arms. She's lucky she had you holding onto her in her last moments. She loved you. I bet she didn't like to see you sad. I bet she tried to cheer you up with a cuddle when she could. She wouldn't want you to be sad for too long after her. Dogs are selfless, you and your family were her entire life. Don't let her life's work be ruined with heartbreak. Just remember her for the rest of your life with a smile. Let her memory make you happy instead of sad.
2006-08-17 16:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry to hear about your loss. same thing happened to me, only my pet was a gray squirrel. he was less than a week old when i got him, he lived to be over 5 years old. he also died in my hands. i thought i would never get over it. just knowing he loved me and he knew i loved him, and thinking of all the good times we had together helped to ease the pain. in time you'll get another pet to love.
2006-08-17 16:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by shygirlfromky 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋