how u deal with someone telling you that they love you and then they cheat on you?

Answer 1

Tell them to kick rocks!

Answer 2

That is hard...I had it happen to me.

It was and is the hardest thing to go through. I could not deal with it, and i tried to tell myself that things will be ok, and maybe the love was really there.
I had to tell myself that I was better than that, and someone that loved me would never think of touching someone else, or being with another person...even if they did not mean it.
It took some time, but i did alot of things to get my mind off of it. I went out, worked out and went to school. Working out will help you get some agression out also.
It takes time, dont worry. I thought I was going to be messed up about it for a long time but it all worked out.
And i did not be want to be looked at as "one of those" dumb girls that allows this. Stay Strong!

Answer 3

Well i say try to dig in there past were they hurt by someone the loved like an ex or a family member. I cheated on my now husband countless times before we got married and he took me back every time i just had issues in my past i needed to deal wit, but if they have seemingly no underlying issue then drop them. They aren't worth it.

Answer 4

Some Girls do that a lot. Play with 3/4 of the guys in different college/university.
So cheating back doesn't work because they are used to this. Just ignore them.... and during sex time.... show her th ebest of her life in every part of her body. Then she will at least remember you wheather she cheats on you or not. Then when you hav ethe proof, just dump her.

Answer 5

First of all, you look at the situation. Was it a one-time horrible mistake that they regret and were honest with you about? Or was it an on-going thing that they were hiding from you and they had feelings for that other person. If it was the first, you have to realize that everyone makes mistakes. Cheating is just one of the many horrible things we do. Loving someone doesnt mean that you will never be hurt, or hurt them. It means that you are there for them no matter what, and dont put them up on a pedestal. Talk to them about it, see what their feelings are. There is no such thing as once a cheater always a cheater. Thats just something we say to justify not forgiving someone. We are all imperfect and will screw up eventually in one way or another. Peoples physical desires are a major weakness. But if this person had an on-going affair with someone and got emotionally involved, you have to handle that a different way. They had plenty of chances to consider your feelings and didnt. Be open and honest with eachother about what you want, how you feel, where you see things going, and most of all, forgive. You may not have cheated, but that doesnt make you a better person. Its not ok to let someone walk all over you, but it is ok to forgive a short lapse in their judgement, and hope that they will be just as loving and forgiving to you when you screw up in some way. Dont ask for details about what they did, it will be harder to get it out of your head. But do tell them that you need to talk things out with them so you can both decide what is best to do. And dont do it when emotions are running high. Let things cool down and do it when you are both ready to be rational, open, and loving.

By the way, when we were teens, my boyfriend got extremely drunk at a party and slept with a girl. He felt so horrible he bawled and hated himself, and told me I had to stay away from him because he wasnt worthy. but i saw more in him. i saw that he was young and stupid, but that we had a deep connection and both wanted the same things from life. so... it was the hardest thing I have ever done, but we worked through it. I cried, told him i hated him, slapped him, and said everything i was feeling and made him feel as horrible as i did. then we talked things out and over several months gained a new trust and understanding for eachother. and it worked for me. our relationship is stronger than ever before. We are now very happily married with a daughter and hopefully more in the future. Just looking in his face, I knew he had learned from his mistake and hated the pain he had caused me. That helped me to deal with it. If he had just been smug and not cared, then I would have known he didnt really love me. My husband and I look forward to a lifetime together and have a trust and bond that is even stronger because of hard things we have endured together.

***** 60% of men cheat, and 40% of women cheat, so for those who think they will NEVER do it, or it will never happen to them, the odds are against you. love is about understanding imperfection**********

Answer 6

that person does not know what love is. How would you deal with someone SHOWING you that they love you and then they cheat on you??

Answer 7

...well...for me when someone is IN LOVE with you and tells you that he LOVES you, is about everything...they don't have other eyes but to you, they are not seeking anyone else but you, etc, etc...sooo there is no room for cheating!!! ...How to deal with it??? that depends, could be that the person cheating really loves the boyfriend/girlfriend...BUT....is not IN LOVE with her/him anymore, so you have to think twice if you want to win his/her love back or it is best for you to move on...

Answer 8

well i just went through something like this and.....it might not be that she doesnt love you it could be something ur doing or u sayed.... but it depends if u love her or not. If not get rid of her and move on. And if u do talk it over with her and she'll tell u y she did it then u decide what u want to do

Answer 9

You realise that maybe they have love FOR you and they aren't good enough to be with you if they cheated on you. It could also be that they didn't really mean it. It sucks I know but you gotta move forward and staying with them won't help.

Answer 10

Dump there *** out in the cold and shut the door behind them. No one deserves to be with a person that isnt going to be loyal

Answer 11

I think I would be really hurt if I LOVED THE PERSON.
I would tell them exactly the way they hurt me and get it said and then I would KICK THEM TO THE CURB. We don't need someone to do that to us ... we are better than that! LOL Niki