My boyfriend looks at Porn sometimes and we're in a really serious relationship and I know its normal for guys to do it, but it really hurts my feelings. Should it? I mean he's basically fantasizing over other girls...or is he not? I want insight from guys and tell me the absolute truth on wether i should be mad or not if you really like get into it and it should be considered "cheating", and also from girls if you've ever had this problem with a boyfriend.
2006-08-17 15:44:50 · 23 answers · asked by xxxxxracheyxxxxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you, these answers helped a lot
2006-08-17 17:13:37 · update #1
If it's cheating to you, then it's cheating. But if that's the case, you'll never find a guy who won't 'cheat' on you. If you're really secure with your relationship, you shouldn't have to worry about anything.
Sorry, no absolute truths when it comes to emotions. Just remember that there are two types of guys: guys who admit they look at porn and liars.
2006-08-17 15:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, we guys love porn and that's the bottom line whether we're in a relationship or not. Of course if you have someone then that usually means we'll watch less but you have to consider that sometimes we're in the mood, you're not around and need help with the release. Now make sure that it just remains a "fantasy" and that's all, because if he starts wanting to do the same things he watches with you or "other" people, then you know it's time to stop and reevaluate your relationship.
2006-08-17 22:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by raymond_from_queens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your boyfriend looks at porn sometimes.. when you say sometimes do u mean during those days when your not around.. well lets face it.. guys are horny all the time.. and looking at porn is a subsitute for either when you arent there or if they are single.. theres two things u should be happy about.. be happy that he doesnt look at porn all the time.. i had an ex who looked at porn all the time even when i was there.. i would be in the other room, ill walk in and catch him and he will shut it off right away hoping i didnt see.. it didnt take me long to realize he had a problem.. another thing to be happy about is.. at least hes just looking.. hes not goin out looking for action or cybering with chicks on the net.. dont worry almost all guys look at porn.. thank god my new bf doesnt.. but even if he did.. i wouldnt mind cause its totally normal..so dont worry.
2006-08-17 23:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by catchme318 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost every guy goes through a porn phase. If he is really into you then the porn phase will die off. I also wouldn't consider it cheating since fantasizing is healthy for relationships.
2006-08-17 22:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by eric g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me I have never had a problem with my man watching porn. I don't think there fantasizing over them. I much rather my man look at porn then to go after another women when he can't get none.
2006-08-17 22:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be hurt about. Men are very visual and enjoy looking. You are the one he is with, not the girls in the porn. I'm sure that you fantasize about things to.
2006-08-17 22:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to do it when you're around. And then drop the whole subject (until you find his porn stash and it includes pictures of him having sex with underage farm animals).
But seriously, it'd be nice if he could stop, but more realistically tell him not to look at that garbage when you're around.
And no, I don't think it's cheating, those urges come and go very quickly, while I'm sure he cares about you very much.
2006-08-17 22:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by ThatGuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be concerned really, it just feels good really, at watching porn kinda makes him gets the pleasure faster. I mean, really im pretty sure he loves you and not the girls in the porno.
I mean a lot of my guy friends at school do it, and yeah, they still have a wonderful happy relationship.
-Edward
2006-08-17 23:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by cursedconcept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not necessairily cheating because he still loves you and he's not having affairs with the women in the porn he's looking at. it is pretty offending and you should really talk to him about it. if he really cares about you he will stop looking at porn and focus only on your relationship. if you've already confronted him about this, then you need to think about how much his looking at porn affects your relationship. good luck!
2006-08-17 22:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by emilyy40193x3babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is cheating if he fantasizes about other chicks. Talk to him about it and if he loves you, he will stop it. I think that if he continues to watch it, then you should leave him. There are many guys out there who would appreciate and love a devoted and caring girlfriend. Good luck girl.
2006-08-17 22:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by italian_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋