Would it be hard for a "normal" person to live with a passive aggressive,manipulating,head game player?

Question

My mom has broke up with her boyfriend and his therapist said he had these problems.She is blaming herself.He would be very abusive to her mentally.We are seeing a therapist to help us with this

Answer 1

Yes, i know it was for me. Going to a therapist is a good thing. Your mother was brain washed by this jerk. He wanted her to think everything was her fault and programmed her through his mind games and she never knew it. She might also need to talk to other women that have been in similar situations so she will come to understand herself and the men she is attracted to so she doesn't do this again. People in abusive relationships tend to keep involving themselves with abusers unless the cycle is broken. Seeking help means you and your mom are on the road to health. Keep up the good work and stay away from head cases. You are a wonderful daughter to care and help her through this difficult time. Lord Bless.

Answer 2

Define normal???? A person that is mentally ill is hard to live around let alone live with. If he is seeing a therapist his problems go back farther then your mother. She may be someone who feels guilty because she has issues too. It shouldn't be normal for women to blame them selves for their mans problems but so many women do. If he is a mind player and a manipulator and passive aggressive then he has probably brain washed her to believe that she is the problem. He probably told her she wasn't a good mother and what ever else that would have dropped her self worth. Her esteem has been messed with. This will take time to get over. Therapy is good but it will even be better when she can walk away from the whole situation and not look back. Good Luck. Tell your mom she rocks for getting rid of him.

Answer 3

A normal person will not stay with a passive aggressive, manipulating, head game player too long. Passive aggresive people are not comfortable around people who are confident and outgoing. If the "normal" person consistently gives them a hard time, they abandon the relationship in search of their next weak victim.

Answer 4

It would be difficult for anyone to deal with this type of person. Be patient with your mom, it takes a lot of time and confidence building to recover from that level of abuse. Her head may sort things out, but it takes a lot longer for the heart to accept the truth.

Answer 5

A person could become conditioned to living with someone who was not mentally healthy and that could begin to contaminate their own thinking.

I'm so happy that your mom and you are out of that situation!
Congratulations on doing some hard work to do what's healthy!

Answer 6

Your mom should not blame herself. She should congratulate herself for getting a negative person out of your lives. He couldn't be a good partner for her, or a good example for you. What could he do? Fill a void in her life? Not worth it. Sweet, caring people with empathy do tend to blame themselves until they learn to handle the power of compassion.

Answer 7

It sounds like he had these problems long before your mother came along.
That's the problem with a lot of people with mental conditions. They like to make others think that their problems are not their own fault.
Tell your mother, Good Luck and Good riddance! We all carry enough baggage of our own , let alone carry someone else's.

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Answer 9

How we feel is determined by each of us individually. We control our feelings, we should take (and can take) control of our lives. Tell your Mum that it's not her fault, that she doesn't have to accept how others choose to feel is her fault. It isn't it's their choice - nobody elses. And get her to get counseling if she is too upset.

Answer 10

There is no "normal". It's more like what is mentally and emotionally healthy. It's about self-esteem and how we view ourselves. Stick with the therapy. It will open your eyes if you keep your mind open.