I need help with my kid!?

Question

i have and 7 year old girl, and whenever she has friends over they tend to touch each other in their privates and once i saw her friend, a boy kiss her and tell her that he wanted her to hump him. i havnt displayed any sexuality around my kid.

Answer 1

It sounds like you need to sit down with your daughter at a calm moment and talk about what you saw. Ask her how she felt about it and do not degrade her or make her feel bad - she is a kid, learning and exploring. Help her to understand how you feel about sex and what you saw - be only as explicit as you need to be, follow her lead in the conversation. There are tons of books available for you and your daughter to read together that will help you through the discussion and open up many questions for your daughter. You MUST be open and honest with her, calm and understanding, and listen very hard to her perceptions. If you open the door to trust and open communication at this age, things will be much easier down the road. Please don't let her down at this critical time.

Answer 2

Don't get upset with her, just sit her down and tell her that you saw what happened with her and her friends. Then tell her that she shouldn't want to be touched yet. It's not that it's not normal, but with her friends, their parents may be displaying a sexual environment around them, and if they see that their parents are happy, and in love, then they may see it as not being a problem. Those children are just exploring themselves, but it's still not O.K. Tell your daughter about what her friends have been telling her about their parents, and you help her understand what the BIG DIFFERENCE is between being in love, and having sex. Explain that sex and kissing is O.K. when she's all grown up like you, but for now, being only seven years old, it is something that she should not be doing. Then have her tell her friends that they can't play that game anymore, and ask if they'd like to play something else. Never say tell your daughter to tell her friends that you said it's not O.K. for them to play that game anymore, because the kids will see it as you don't want them to play with your daughter, and that's not it. You're just trying to tell them that you don't think that the game that they are playing is not appropriate for children their ages. Anyway, kids are very dynamic, so her friends will agree with her, and play a more fun game, that you do approve of. I hope that my advice helps a little.

Answer 3

I think you need to have a conversation with her, yeah you know the one. Kids learn way too much in school--from other kids whos parents are not as descrete. It is better tht you be honest and up front with her than let her learn the wrong info on the street. I raised my boys by what my granddad told me, when my oldest was born.
A well informed kid makes smart choices, always answer their questions truthfully, and give them all the information they can handle! When my boys asked about drugs we told them every thing we could, what a high is like, what it islike to come down, what it does to your body, how it kills you. Neither one of them have ever done drugs. When it comes to things like drugs and sex I don't think that a child can have too much info. Keeping them in the dark, only makes them curious, and you know what curiousity did to the cat.

Answer 4

Sounds like you have more than one problem. When you see this activity, you need to confront your daughter (lovingly of course) to see if she knows it is not acceptable behavior. In the case of the boy, you need to talk with his parents and let them know what is happening. For goodness sake, don't leave any of them alone together until you iron out some answers. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I would find out where she's getting this information. If it's from school, may I suggest talking with the teacher and/or principal--or better yet, start homeschooling.

I've heard of this one school where they were teaching five-year-olds how to use Saran Wrap in place of condoms. Go figure.

Answer 6

Yikes.....I have a 7 year old daughter as well and let me tell you, if I heard that kind of talk someone would be gettin there butt kicked!! I hope you informed the parents of this innappropriate behavior!! Remember your the parent.

Answer 7

You need to have a serious talk with your daughter about her body and how no one should be touching her in her private areas

Answer 8

You need to have a serious talk with your daughter about her body and how no one should be touching her in her private areas with few exceptions (doctors) and she should not be touching anyone else. you also need to speak with the parents of her friends whom you observed touching your daughter.

Answer 9

as a parent you have to teach your child the principle and the knowledge when it comes to a male touching her private i always say to my niece if someone wants to touch you what must you say and she says " No " and i say good girl, you need to train your child in the way he\ she is to grow so that if she is alone she will remember what you told her and will not engage in any activity that you didn't teach her.

Answer 10

School. These days...you need to be really careful. This is why my parents homeschooled me until I was 11...lol Well I'm glad, because I didn't have the bad influences you get in school at such a crucial age. You need to tell her its BAD..get it into her head. Also, you may even want to think about homeschooling.