Now let me tell you my real dillemma. This guy is in a training class with me and I have been around him every day for the last 7 weeks. He recently moved here from NY and he left his "friend" behind. Last week we had intercourse and I called out his name and now he says that he is getting to involved. But everyday he says that if he could change things he would make me his "woman". I want to be with him and he really makes me happy. Now I am stuck thinking about how I can make him mine. What should I do?
2006-08-17 14:59:18 · 26 answers · asked by Skittles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
14 years? how could be attracted to such an old guy? forget about him and find a more appropriate aged guy. this will never work out.
2006-08-17 15:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by richard457 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know people say that age is nothing but a number but it really does mean something. My ex husband was 10 yrs older then me. I see now that there was really some issues with that. Your in a different catergory then them. It's hard to explain but I know that I would do it ever again. Maybe a sex toy boy but nothing serious. I just feel that it's a big mistake. I mean without actually knowing how old you both are....but I mean do you want kids....is he to old to have kids? If he has kids are you near his kids age? I mean there is a lot to think about. Don't let the emotions of sex come involved. Make sure your thinking with your head and what your "gut" tells you. Not your heart. Because your heart is to involved sexually. Plus new "relationships" are always like high in the beginning....so maybe just give time as well.
2006-08-17 15:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with, it really makes a difference to how old you are. For instance, if you both are adults then fourteen years is'nt so bad, but lets say your only sixteen and he's thirty, well your still a child and he is an adult, too much difference there. Your just beginning to live life and as the saying goes he's been there, done that, see what I mean? Then as far as you asking how you can make him intrested in you, you can't "make" him like you, either he likes you or he does'nt, right? Good luck
2006-08-17 15:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by betty g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I am missing the part where the problem is :)
You like him, he likes you, why are you still wondering?
A friend of mine is dating a guy who is 15 years older than her. They are so happy and so in love and I am not convinced that age does not matter.
Give it a try. If it wont work - move on. Its okay to be worried in your case, but keep in mind that there are many couples with such age gaps.
2006-08-17 15:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Julia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that age is the problem here. Who exactly is his "friend" that he left behind? And what "things" does he wish he could change? It kind of sounds to me like he already got what he wanted from you. Sex. I truly hope this isn't the case, but if it is, I hope you will be the bigger person and get rid of him, because I know you deserve better than that.
2006-08-17 15:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met a guy when I was 21 he was 17 years my senior (two months younger than my mum), we were married 4yrs later and also now have two beautiful sons one 4yrs and the other 6 months. We've been together now for 12yrs and still going strong if you do truly love each other nothing else matters
2006-08-17 15:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by donna c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me he got what he wanted girlie I'm sorry.If he really wanted you to be his woman whats stopping him.Its OK for him to flirt & have sex with you & promise you the sun,moon & stars but to be with you offically he just can't do it!No,no thats bullcrap!If he still had feelings for his "friend" he would have never had had sex with you.This is a typical man for you.My ex was 18 yrs older than me so age to me is fine.but the best thing you can do is move on & forget about this user.I know its easier said than done but at least your mind will be at ease.Good look girlie you can do this.Be strong : ) x
2006-08-17 15:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by princess joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to what he is telling you. He told you you were getting too involved immediately after you slept together. This is a clear sign he is not ready to get involved. Keep him as a friend. He will let you know if he wants more.
2006-08-17 15:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, hes not too old for you.he did just move there give him some time about a month if it dont go no further, find you someone that really loves you, thats what I would do, but you can only put a certain timeline on things, life does move on unfortunately with or without you.
2006-08-17 15:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by sweetneesy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might just be using you for sex cause if he really wanted to be with you nothing would stop him. Avoid him for awhile and see what happens, see if he is sincere and just say if you want me you comment 100% or not at all because I am worthy of all you not just what fits into your schedule.
2006-08-17 15:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by mustang.suzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋