i'm so sick and tired of guys pointing and laughing at me. my friend told me that while we were leaving autozone a guy was checking me out. of course i know he was checking her out. it depressed me so that she would be that cruel. i'm a tomboy but that doesn't mean i want to be alone forever. why can't i be accepted, why can't i have someone to tell me they love me. being single is not fun. it hurts deeper than anyone could ever imagine.
2006-08-17 14:53:36 · 16 answers · asked by foreverknightisforever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may not like what I have to say but please read it anyway. Being ugly is something that you can't really control, but I am sure that you aren't ugly. But being fat is a whole different thing. You can give all excuses you like, but I know from personal experience that being fat is a choice. I've never actually been fat but if I ate the way I wanted to without working out I would be fat. I have a bad metabolism. So I have to watch what I eat and I work out a lot. Physical attraction is very important for either sex in a relationship. So maybe you should do something for yourself and lose the weight. I not saying that it will be easy, but nothing in life that is worth doing is easy.
2006-08-20 00:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by the_world_is_yours44 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your friend told you that because she is your friend. Of course he was looking at her. A better statmetnt would have been, "He's looking at US".
I was a tomboy when I was a kid and in a lot of ways I still am. I love pizza and burritos and beer and not light beer either. I also walk 10 miles or more a week, lift weights and limit my carbs to the occasional burrito or slice or four of pizza. I don't weigh over 150 or 140 or even 130.
You can't be accepted because like a previous poster said people want those who look like they take care of themselves. Rolls on your skin make it look like you don't care about yourself so why should anyone else? This brings me to your actual question. It goes back to that old joke told by men. Set up- Why is a fat chick like a moped? Punchline- They're pretty cool until your friends know you're riding it.
It's amazing how these days everyone has genetic problems or thyroid problems that make them obese. Genes haven't changed that much in millions of years. With all the advances in medicine and technology, the idea of hundreds of thousand of people with thyroid issues is ridiculous.
Americans as a whole are lazy and sedintary. Fast food rules the day and eveyone whines too much. Just eat less and move more, it doesn't cost you any $$.
Good luck and remember when you do loose the weight consider plastic surgery. All that loose skin is not attractive to men either.
2006-08-17 23:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I did not care about anything. About my looks or anything, I played sports. I was not like other girls that where always girly and safe. Even guys used to call me ugly when I was younger and horrible names. Now that I’m older, a lot of people say I’m beautiful even guys. I still play sports, I’m into girl stuff as well now. But I also like cars, sports, video games, and other stuff. It should not bring you down, just be yourself. No you are not going to be alone because you are different then most girls. Being different and breaking from the ordinary things makes it more interesting.
2006-08-25 06:23:02 · answer #3 · answered by Questions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? i got sick recently with hypothyroidism and gained so much weight it sickens me. anyone with that condition knows how difficult it is to not only keep the weight off, but keep it from coming at all. i was a very petite size 4. i loved that i could walk into a room and people would stare. i feel i was so beautiful. now, after that and medication and some radiation therapy, i am a size 22. i often see the same people that used to stare at me and complement me. they don't even glance at my shadow. maybe they are afraid of offending me or maybe i am that repulsive to them. but i'll tell you what i accept that i look different. i accept that , now that my levels are normal, i can work my way back. there are people out there who feel that there is nothing wrong with being overweight. they say they are happy and maybe they are. if you are healthy, truly healthy, then ok. some people figure that if society has come to accept gay people, immigrants, etc... then overweight people should be accepted to. i accept everyone. learn to accept yourself and if you are truly unhappy, fix it. your friend is an *** for acting like that. you don't need that from someone who claims to be a friend. be confident and don't look back.
2006-08-17 22:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
hey hun....sounds like your at that age were most of the kids are stupid and more caught up on havin' fun at other peoples expince then careing about other peoples feelings...im glad how ever that you are more mature then they are and later on in life they will grow up to learn the truth....i don't know how many kids i saw like that in school....they thought they were the stuff in school simply cause they were popular or had money but found out when they got out in the real world that they were just another little fish in a big pond and the world didn't care how popular they thought they were...guess what they did...they fell apart cause they weren't sheltered any more....just be glad that they have made you more mature...you will be able to handle what life throws at you a lot better then they will...e mail me any time hun...love daisy
2006-08-17 22:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can feel your pain I've always been the fat chic too and i dont really know what advice i can give except to say your friend wasnt nice to you i would tell if she did it again i wouldnt be her friend anymore, you really need to get some self confidence if a guy isnt interested in you just let them go ,there is a guy out there just for you and he will see all the beautiful qualitys you have , and see you for what you are on the inside.
2006-08-17 22:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go work out then?
People in general, both men and women, are attracted to people that show signs that they take care of themselves. Going to the gym and eating healthy diet shows you care. You can be skinner, stockier, sporting a bit of gut, doesn't matter, you don't have to look like a celebrity. But you do have to look like you try. Trust me, muscle looks different regardless of size. A stocky girl that works out regularly will look better than a skinny girl that's skinny because of good genes. Clothes will sit on you differently, and you'll move differently.
I bust my azz at the gym too. That's just how it is. Anything in life that's that's worth achieving will be difficult.
2006-08-17 22:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Doesn't sound like your "friend" is much of a friend. There's PLENTY of guys out there who like big girls. When you find one, however, don't go and get all clingy on him and start chewing his ear off about your previous dating woes. It will make him disappear.
2006-08-25 05:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by ONYX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fat people - men or women - signal to everybody that they are self-indulgent and have a lack of discipline in their lives. Sort of like an alcoholic or drug addict. People have enough problems with their lives without taking on more problems that should be under control.
2006-08-25 18:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by waplambadoobatawhopbamboo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everyone gets the chance to love and be loved. Yours just hasn't come yet. Don't be bitter. Don't get down on yourself. Your time will come. Right now, take this time to work on you. Love yourself. Love who you are. No one else will if you don't.
2006-08-17 22:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Hpnotiq 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋