Well let me start off... I met this girl online and we talked on the phone for a while before we met. During the time we met I made a huge mistake and messed around (not sex) with another girl. (It was my first time). Then shortly after that I met this girl the girl im with now who is my girlfriend. I wish so bad that I didn't do it and It's hard for me to get over it. I have prayed about it and told her and she says she understands and never brings it up or anything but I'm just having a hard time getting over such a stupid and immature mistake. I don't want to break up with my girlfriend but I do care about her and wish I should have waited. I would never cheat on her or anything like that and she says she trusts me. Will I ever get over this?
Anyone ever had this happen where they wish they would have waited or someone?
2006-08-17 14:51:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should this bad past expierience affect the future?
2006-08-17 14:53:02 · update #1
I realize I am so wrong for what I did, no we weren't dating just talking on the phone (i haven't even met her). She never brings it up and she says she hardly ever thinks about it but its killing me. I wanted her to be the first for everything if you know what I mean. I'm still a virgin though.
2006-08-17 15:13:08 · update #2
We all (usually) learn from our mistakes, we can't take them back but we can learn from them. We are humans with many flaws, you are just going to have to forgive yourself. If you continue with torturing yourself, your girlfriend will constantly be reminded by you. Why do that? You say you didn't have sex, and you met your girlfriend after this took place. Dwelling on this could ruin something good that you have right now....forgive yourself and try to live the best you can. That is all any of us can really try and do.
2006-08-17 15:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I'm relieved to see someone with a backbone admitting their mistake and actually being sorry about it. Any other women agree? I'm on the boat!
I think you should tell her how awful you feel about it and that you can't get over it. It's good that you actually do care about this. If she hasn't left you, then she still loves you. You really need to resolve it with her before you'll ever really find inner-peace with yourself.
:) Good luck.
2006-08-17 21:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Slippers 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you weren't dating at the time, right?
it's okay. it's really mature of you to realize that it was foolish to mess around with another girl you didn't really like. it was also really mature to be upfront about it with your girlfriend. you might have actually earned some points, even though it may have weirded her out a bit if she hasn't done that yet.
but just chill out, keep doing what you're doing, be honest, trustworthy, and faithful, and i'm sure your relationship will be fine.
best of luck
2006-08-17 21:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by al 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. Now if you still like the other girl, you have a problem. Otherwise, learn from your mistakes and move on.
2006-08-17 21:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by THP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea
2006-08-17 21:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by Cheyenne M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋