My girlfriend and I broke up and I just cant seem to let it go. She still calls and I love her more than I ever thought possible but I just dont believe we will ever get back together again. How do you move on when you are always talking to your ex and still have such strong feelings for them?
2006-08-17 14:50:32 · 5 answers · asked by A.C. Kinder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't expect to be around her and have your feelings for her go away. Can you take a trip somewhere for a while? That might help put things in perspective for you. You really need to put some distance between you and your ex. Your feelings for her won't change until you do. Maybe...start doing different things in your life. There is a saying "IF Nothing Changes, Nothing Changes." By making some positive changes in "your" life, you'll notice things changing about you. The feelings you have for her today may not be the feelings you have for her tomorrow. Abstinence, Change and time will help you see things with new eyes.
2006-08-17 15:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lei-Loo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to not call you for a while. Tell her that when you be ready to be her friend you will call her back. She will understand Believe me. Some times we need to split out with the one we love, but we know is the best thing we can do.
I t is painful and you will suffer and cry, but at the same time try to understand this is the right thing you did.
I would say, to write. Write everything you feel, you anger your frustration, your feelings, your love, the reasons why the relationship did not work and the reasons why will never work.
That will help you to push out your pain and to realize life continues no matter what.
Advice: Don't try to find another woman immediately, stay alone, clean your soul and heart from the suffering, and then the right one will be there for you. Hang out with friends, enjoy your life, don't stay at home depressed.
If you think you love her but to finish with her was a good choice you will move on faster. Believe me.
2006-08-17 23:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by divacobian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and learning more about you will help you move on. In any kind of circumstance that you lose someone you are going to have a time for morning. The hurt will ease as time goes on. I finally accepted the end of a relationship after 12 yrs and I am finally able to move on but because I finally relaized that evcen though I still loved that person it was time to move on. You will have to open yourself up and live life again. Learn the lesson and move on. Since she still calling you you will have to learn to detatch yourself emotionally but still be compassionate enough to be her friend. Remember how you would want to be treated if it were the other way arouond.
2006-08-17 21:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by favoritecolorsblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear,
if u ppl still talk & love each other so passionately,i see no reason for u both to call urself "EX". patch up if there was ever a break up & be happy.......
2006-08-17 22:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by sadia_r2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good luck dude!!
2006-08-17 21:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋