Can you guys over 23 explain what scares you off if you are dating someone for about 2 weeks? What sort of things would make you change your mind and how would you react? Would you stop calling all-together? Or would you just play some sort of games? (And this is assuming you are generally pretty polite and raised with good morals...) Would you talk to the girll about what's bothering you? Please help!
2006-08-17 14:46:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously, you're in the middle of this situation. More information would be useful in helping you. Re-examine your interactions with the person. Was there something that made you uncomfortable? People will pick up on others' discomfiture and mistakenly think it's their fault and not impose themselves. Is there something that may have made him uncomfortable? It may be something totally out of your control that just happened when you were with him.
You appear to be questioning whether you had anything to do with his behavior. Unless he's become totally non-communicative, talk to him to see if he's still interested. If not, write it off to experience and keep moving.
2006-08-17 14:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by eriurana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23, generally pretty polite and raised with good morals, and since I broke up with someone this year I can tell you things that actually turned me off:
-Calling too often - especially when I'm at work or with people - it bothers me and leaves out some of the excitement.
-Getting "lazy" meaning spending too much time together and not taking care of yourself and doing things like dressing up for a damn date.
-Talking bad about about people I've known longer than you. Unacceptable.
-Lastly, "If it ain't happenin' in the bedroom, it ain't happenin'.
Sorry to sound bitter, but I'm very old school in that I think men should be men and women - women. I can say that there are certain things that would turn me off after a while. BTW does anyone know how I can get the face avatar?
2006-08-17 15:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by JASON T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm only 20 but ill throw my 2 cents in. After 2 weeks it sorta means something annoying about the girl has been discovered that the guy didn't know about before he hung out with you. Its some little clash in conversation that he is probably deciding to not bring up but would rather just avoid everything all together. Maybe he feels that it would bother you to mention it. I don't know. If youre interested in staying with him you should ask if something small annoys him about you. If it were me I wouldn't have just cut off all communication. Anyway, yeah. I'm guessing something small annoys him.
See ya.
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2006-08-17 14:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i would definetly talk to the person,comunication is the backbone in every relationship.If the person has that little respect to avoid you altogether then he is a coward.I have never lied or avoided any lady i have dated yet.You may think im liying by saying that but i was raised to treat people with the same decentcy and respect that i would want:)
2006-08-17 14:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I agree with the shemale. It's only 2 weeks! If the guy gets scared off after only 2 weeks there's something wrong, and you need to just move on. Of course it would be nice if he would call and tell you what the problem was... not make you find out from your doctor 2 months later... when the damn herpes test comes back positive...
2006-08-17 14:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When i was dating what scared me off was that i was getting to close and didn't even know them but would i be a coward and run off and hide and never call them no more i would have to say yes cause i wouldn't know what to say to them cause I'm not a very talkative to women and i don't know why either
2006-08-17 14:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by swwsept 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only time i ran off was when the lady i was seeing ex husband of 9 years was stalking her and i really didn't know until i saw him at my front door so had to let her go and never called her again otherwise i can work out any problems.
2006-08-17 14:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As someone who used to be a man, I can say that girls who are this paranoid about a guy they have known for 2 weeks used to scare me off. But now I'm a chick so I'm one of those chicks too. Happy hunting.
2006-08-17 14:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by sargenus 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would iscuss my concernes with the woman. i mean if i'm not attracted too her, or she is coming on either too strong, or too light, i'd let her know. you cant be mad at someone for not having chemistry.
no relationship will last long with out comunication. over 23, everyone should be adult enough to be able to communicate, and break up with out hating eachother, it just doesnt work.
2006-08-17 14:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always talk to the girl about whats bothering me, im not the type to just run off.
2006-08-17 14:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by prophetoftruth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋