When I was just friends with this girl, I confessed my love for her but didn't ask her to be my girlfriend because I thought of taking it slow. After a few months, she told me she's giving another guy a chance. I stopped talking to her since then and 3 months later, she begged me to communicate with her again because that guy did not love her. We are together now but in the back of my mind I just want to date another girl for 3 months to even the score.
2006-08-17 14:42:56 · 43 answers · asked by Cool Guy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, you dont need to be doing that, the way I see it she needed time to realize her feelings for you, people can love someone and be unaware, it probably took her being with the other guy to see that aspect and to realize what a great guy you were and what she was missing out on., the way I see it if she loves you now, why does it matter about her past mistakes she is with you now isnt she and the way I see it its better late then never.
2006-08-17 14:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by sweetneesy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Revenge is never the best solution. Been there done that.
It ALWAYS back fires! Who knows? Maybe because of the other guy maybe that is what it took for her to know how good she had it.
Another possibility:
Also, did you consider that she may have wanted you to make a move and foolishly chose jealousy to help you along?
The best thing to do is talk to her about it.
Tell her it bothered you when she did that. Ask her what were you thinking?
Or maybe not.
Just let the past go and enjoy the now and future.
2006-08-17 14:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but that was kind of immature of you. You just confessed to this girl that you loved her, and that may have been a lot for to take in. There was nothing wrong with her seeing someone because you two were never even dating. And you chose to just ignore her despite your love for her and her desperation to be with you. If you're asking my advice, just count your blessings and enjoy your relationship as it is now. There is no point in revenge.
2006-08-17 14:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very obvious you want revenge, because you're hurt. Don't you think you should rather tell her? You can either go like, you dated someone when i was waiting, so let's see if you can wait for me now while i'm taking my "time off" with someone else... or you can ask her, how she can love you if she didn't wait for you? she might just be a player. you gotta talk to her and tell her it's unfair, and what she would do if she were in your position. don't play the back-and-forth kind of thing... it'll just get worse over time.
If you wanna be with her, get with her, not someone who will just be an excuse.
2006-08-17 14:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you you had to experience that but getting even may for the momnet make you feel better but in the end it's not who you are. Don't let others makes you act different than what you are. I've don the whole revenge thing and I hurt the one who hurt me and I should have just left it alone. In the end I felt worse for what I did than what was done to me. Hope this helps a little. :-)
2006-08-17 14:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by favoritecolorsblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even date this girl if you are only with her out of revenge that is not cool and you need to let that go or let her go it sounds like you took her back out of revenge and that is not a good start for a realtionship I hope when a guy is with me its out of love not because he is mad at me and wants to "even the score" dump her and move on or she will dump you and move on to a guy who has no grudges pick one or the other LOL good luck !!
2006-08-17 14:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at her. Honestly she may have been at a point in her life where she didn't want to take it slow, she wanted a boyfriend right then. I don't think she did anything to hurt you or to brush you off. She's with you now and I'm sure everything is diffrent because u are her boyfriend. And that is all she wanted, a boyfriend, a guy to call her own and love her
2006-08-17 14:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by lamikashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love her then and there is no reason of sticking together. If you think that way, and she also wants revenge later on..what kind of realtionship is that then? If you think of having revenge..just let her go and it all be quits and fair. ANd besides..revenge is NEVER good. Whatever the reason. Learn to forgive and accept her. I bet she knew that she committed a mistake. Pray..God bless!
2006-08-17 14:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the morally correct thing to do is to forgive and forget. But i would teach her lesson if i was you for sure just to let her know how you felt. Personally i would not have let her back in the first place but to balance things out a bit i would date some one else just to show her how it feels.
2006-08-17 15:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by afrprince77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You took it slow, you missed the opportunity. Maybe she was wondering why you didn't make a move on her, and decided to give this other guy a chance. Don't blame it on her if you screwed up.
If you were her 2nd choice, then pulling this stunt will only make her leave you for good.
2006-08-17 14:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by evil_clown_of_destruction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋