i need to change..
the guy im in love with..he said i can earn his love..so i need to be more self confindent..and stop cutting myself..and be less shy..i will change fro him..ive liked him for like 2 years...
How can i be self confident? i need to think im pretty and stuff...but i dont think i am..
I have been cutting for like 1 year now...the past month ive been trying to stop..like i only cut once or twise a week..but i cut deeper like i wont stop bleeding for 2 hours..and i cant stop cutting..i need help...how do i stop?
I need to be less shy..and more like out there..and i need tips on kissing...HELP?!?!
you can im me if you want.=]
2006-08-17 14:41:33 · 12 answers · asked by scared by myselfXxXx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need professional help. Get your *** off your computer and go see a doctor of some sorts. But im glad your trying to earn his love, thats shows that you know how to be commited.
2006-08-17 14:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by prophetoftruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...you should never have to change who you are to "earn' the love of someone. if you decide to change do it becuase YOU want to, not because someone else wants you to. Second of all...you really do need to go see a doctor. cutting is not good for you at all and you could really use some help. and who knows? maybe that will be your first step to changing your life around and becoming more confident and less shy....good luck!
2006-08-17 21:49:29 · answer #2 · answered by lindz_marie06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am a social worker and I feel that you need to go to some kind of counseling to get yourself to stop cutting that is not emotinally healthy and you need to start to go to therapy and get some professional help that is great that despite this the guy likes you but you need to start concerating on yourself after you stop cutting yourself then you can start getting kissing tips !
2006-08-17 21:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a new man. You should not have to "earn" someone's love. If it is truly love, it is given freely, and NEVER EVER HAS TO BE EARNED! He is controlling you without you even knowing it, please, get help immediately for your cutting. Call 911 tonight and tell them what you're doing, and ask them to speak with a mental health professional. Any guy who is telling you this stuff is twisted, and you deserve better. GET HELP NOW!
2006-08-17 22:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really see a doctor and a therapist to help you. That is the best thing for you at this point or it will get worse. Hurting yourself is nothing to be taken lightly. Self-esteem problems are real, but what you are doing is dangerous. You need to seek help like now. Ok? I hope you do.
2006-08-17 21:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to change yourself for some guy and by you cutting yourself is stupid you don't need to cut yourself for it is not a good thing to do for all you know if you cut yourself deeper you can cut a vein and die so think twice next time you decide to cut yourself just because, you don't believe your pretty. everybody is pretty in their own simple way.
you can go to a counceller for help with your cutting yourself problem before it becomes more serious.
2006-08-17 21:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by sam k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need professional help if you can't stop cutting yourself. I would worry about that before I'd worry about kissing if I were you. One of these days you'll go to cut yourself and you'll never stop bleeding, and you could die. Did you ever stop to think about that?? I wish I could help you, but this isn't my area of expertise. Good luck and try to quit cutting yourself.
2006-08-17 21:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a very good psychiatrist.
they will help you.
I don't unserstand such self distructive behavior.
it's beyond my ken so I shan't be much help.
yes... you use it as an escape.
so you need to stop running...
and find something
as for kissing tips:
close your eyes
press them tight against you
and kiss
make sure you feel very passionate about the kiss
no hesitation.
if he opens his mouth, do the same...
as for self-confidence:
same: I can't help you, you need to increse your concept of self worth.
talk to that psychiatrist/ psychoanalist.
they'll help you.
or if you have a nice preist type, they'll help too...
they've all helped me before
2006-08-17 21:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that no one is better than you. Your life will turn around. You just have to have a good attitude. Start by smiling more.
2006-08-17 21:48:41 · answer #9 · answered by limey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get new clothes, a new hair cut, and hit the local bars at night
2006-08-17 21:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋