My boyfriend is staying w/me and lately talks about moving somewhere else. When I say; "what about us?", he's like I'll get settled then you can come." He's on his way in the car to this place and in a phone conversation - he say,"I can't be w/someone that's up&down, I love your spirit for life and I love you but I never know what you'll b like" Blah, blah. Then I get a text msg saying he'd like me to come 4 the wknd. I sent an email saying that since he doesn't seem to want to b w/me - I am going to start thinking about myself, & he writes back, "I guess I'm on my own, you don't seem to want to be w/me- I wish you would reconsider! After the long talk on the phone at how he can't be w/someone like me etc, then he is asking me up for the weekend!! What gives? And NO he is not a young guy!!
I want to write back and say HEEEllllooo?R U Nuts or what? I want some advise before I answer...
2006-08-17 14:37:55 · 22 answers · asked by gandergirl81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off you are being very unreasonable and selfish...He is in "love" with you but at the same time has troubles with you haywire roller coaster of emotions. Obviously he wants to keep the relationship going but he wants a bit more space, mabey even just during the work week. Id say go see him and talk things out, then stay in a seperate room or go back to your place to sleep. This could be a huge stepping stone or the end of what already seems to be a rocky relationship, be the adult and handle this well if you want the relationship to go anywhere but down and out. Good luck and remember no matter what age someone is, even you, they can still act childish.
2006-08-17 14:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by University Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either call or get together and has it out face to face...that's too serious an issue to deal with netspeak text messages or emails in which emotion and voice inflection cannot be heard...
You need to get a straight answer from him as to if he's interested in continuing the relationship or not...saying he doesn't like your moodiness, then inviting you for the weekend is definitely going to confuse you...
Perhaps you should go, and y'all can talk things out once and for all...by the end of the weekend you should know if y'all are gonna give it a good shot, or if you're a free agent again...
2006-08-17 14:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let him be. If he really wants to be with you then he'll be back no matter what. Maybe he's just playing a game with you. Give him a little bit more attention and then give him the cold shoulder. It'll drive him nuts. Good luck, hope I helped.
2006-08-17 14:51:01 · answer #3 · answered by rudolph228 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he wants you to come up for the weekend if he isn't sure he wants to be with you.Maybe he's just trying to let you down easy,or maybe he likes you as a friend but not a lover.Either way the decision is yours.
2006-08-17 14:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell him that you need some time to think about what he just told you it sounds like he has no clue of what he wants and you are not a YO YO so tell him to really think about what he wants it sounds like he wants to be with you but living with you is not working out for him so asked him what does he want and good luck to you is this guy is in his 30's for they are just as bad LOL
2006-08-17 14:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feel that he not moving no where in his life not making enough money or wa ever is or maybe ya sending to much time w each other .give him some space and go on the weekend maybe by being apart would put ya back together
2006-08-17 14:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by fumeluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if he really loves u he would not leave u likr that come on when u love someone and u want a future with that person u think with her/him and u take him/her under consideration i dont know what to say but just be ur self and be smart too.
2006-08-17 14:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by shorty Peraza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the relationship *as it is*. Not as it was, not as it could be, no "if only" or "what if". Look at how things are. Do you want it? Is that the relationship and respect you deserve?
Thats my advice about what you should do. Your decision would come easily after that, I suspect.
I wish you well.
2006-08-17 14:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by jennifae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Its possible he is bipolar. He also sounds manipulative by trying to lay a guilt trip on you ("You don't seem to want to be w/me). I think your on the right track since u told him your going to start thinking about yourself. Focus on yourself and your well-being. If he wants to move out--let him. I wouldn't put all my eggs in his basket.
2006-08-17 14:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, you make it out to sound like ur boyfriends the bad guy, but I havent heard HIS side of the story, so as of now, i cant take anything u say as being factual.
2006-08-17 14:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by prophetoftruth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋