I think i may be gay. How do i tell my wife?

Question

I love my wife but I have a frinde that i have been seeing for a while and we are starting to get close. what should i do? Oh I am in the NAVY and I think thats part of the reason i became gay, I'm a chief. thank you.

Answer 1

try a 3-sum with your wife. u will become straight again.

Answer 2

if you love her you will care enough to tell her and spare her of too much pain and deceit if you get to be more involved with another man....being gay is not a wrong, it is a preference on how you would live your life, about your career go with what i advise you... do not tell anyone about anything if it is beyond need, but if they asked you, dear, even if you are gay, be a man and tell them straight, you may lose your job, but you will have the self respect none in the navy could ever afford to give............
back with your wife it is really quite complicated, you cannot leave this situation at ease without her being scathed, no matter what way, she would be hurt, what i advice is that you be your most honest, your gentlest and your most manly self and tell her, gather you balls! after that tell her that you are willing to make amends do not leave her all at once give her space yet always assure that you are at her back always ready to catch her whenever she falls, try to be friends help her continue, even at first she would be too mad at you, in the back of her mind knowing you are still there for her, even as a friend or someone who is dear who would still care for her she would be atleast be a bit relieved, she would in time submit and would not worry, im sure you love her too right? good luck my friend, there isnt any easy way in life all are test which we need to pass to make us new.

Answer 3

The Bible, in Genesis, in chapters one and two, provides God's blueprint for marriage and for His good gift of sex. The gift is only to be enjoyed within a marriage between a man and a woman. There are no exceptions suggested, such as homosexual partnerships. From Genesis on, the Bible praises the marriage of a man and a woman, but it speaks only negatively of homosexual behavior whenever it is mentioned.

The Old Testament states, "Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable" (Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13). The New Testament agrees, listing "homosexual offenders" among a list of people who "will not inherit the kingdom of God" unless they are cleansed through Christ (1 Corinthians 6:9-11). Other passages are Genesis, chapter 19; Romans 1:18-32; 1 Timothy 1:8-11; Jude, verse 7. However, it is important to note that the Bible speaks only of homosexual behavior (which would include lust—choosing to fantasize about behavior), not unchosen feelings. God will not judge a Christian guilty for his or her involuntary feelings.

Sometimes it is said that the Bible does not record any words of Jesus about homosexuality, and therefore it must be acceptable to God. However, the Bible does not record sayings of Jesus about a number of other specific sins either. When people asked Jesus about marriage, He told them to remember what Genesis said about God's plan for marriage (Matthew 19:1-12). So, in this sense, Jesus did have something to say about homosexual partnerships. If people had asked Him, He would have told them to remember what God said about marriage in Genesis. God only blessed sex within the committed marriage relationship of a man and a woman.

Some have tried to reinterpret what the Bible says, in an effort to approve homosexual relationships. For a reply to such efforts, read "Straight and Narrow" by Thomas Schmidt or "A Strong Delusion" by Joe Dallas. These books are available through most Christian bookstores or through Regeneration Books, P. O. Box 9830, Baltimore, Maryland 21284, telephone: [phone].

Answer 4

well, if you only "think" so, don't tell her unless you are SURE.

actually, whether you are seeing a man or a woman, you should tell your wife about it. honesty is the best thing. If you love your new friend then just come out and tell your wife you have found someone else. no need to go into details about who. in fact, better left unsaid.

pick a lane and stay in it.

Answer 5

i think u been gay for years maybe ur girlesh qualtiies comming out u actually should have told her that instead of askin her hand in marriage first anyways thats gonna be a hard task to tell that..

Answer 6

it this is how your truly feel...then you should tell your wife the truth instead of lying behind her back which is worse> tell here that being in the navy has changed your life> but don't take it from me or yahoo answers, you should ask freinds and family for advice>

Answer 7

oh, thats a tough one. No easy way to do it, just tell her. And dont tell the Navy, lol, they will kick you out.

Answer 8

I don't think you can "become" gay. you're either born gay or you're not. if you really are you need to tell your wife because it wouldn't be fair to her to have a husband that isn't attracted to her.

Answer 9

Buy the collectors edition of "The Liza Minnelli Story"... that in and of itself will tell her.

Answer 10

you're a gay chief right?
just tell her how you feel and maybe she'll understand
she'll be shocked but she'll get over it.

atenshun!!!