it was a very very emotional year of her fighting cancer. she left behind her parents, 5 siblings, and a bunch of nieces and nephews she was a second mother to. she was my mothers sister.. her best friend, and when my mom cries about it, i get mad. i feel bad, but i just get so ticked off when i see her crying about it. Why does it make me so mad? does it make me a bad person? i dont know what to do about it and i feel horrible.
2006-08-17 14:15:04 · 8 answers · asked by YoungNsweet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you feel jealous. You feel that your mum is neglecting you and you hate it when she cries about your aunt and shows no emotion to you. Then again I might be wrong as I don't really know the situation. Your not a bad person because you also feel guilt. Talk to your mum about how you feel. I thinks its time she knew. Good Luck.
2006-08-17 14:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ziggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be difficult for you to witness your parent in such a vulnerable state. As children we see our parents as powerful superheroes who can solve anything and never have emotional problems of their own, but then we grow up and realize that this is just not true and seeing their weakness can make you sad or angry. Don't be mad at your Mom. She needs to grieve the loss of her sister and grieving can take years and manifest itself in many ways. Nobody can replace a sister and I remind myself of that when I get angry at my sister for something. You are not a bad person for getting angry, but in the future be patient with your mom. Someday you will lose someone very close and you will need understanding. You can show your love by being there for her.
2006-08-17 21:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by M N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurt by your aunt's death and you don't like seeing your mother suffer. It is normal to get mad. Can you get your mom to talk about her feelings about her sister? It may help both of you.
It doesn't help much now, but it does get better over time.
2006-08-21 12:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt died in February of 2005 at the age of 40 from cancer. She was my mother's twin so I know exactly what you and your family is going through. At first you will be angry like never before, but out of nowhere, this strange calmness will come over you. It's hard to explain. You'll miss them alot, but realize it is selfish of you to do so. Like I said....it's hard to explain. If you need to talk about it further you can shoot me an email at jodaco01@yahoo.com.
2006-08-17 21:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by jodaco01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that crying is part of the grieving process and your mom and her were close so she is going to have a rough time dealing with it. Maybe you get mad because you hate to see your mom in pain, that is understandable. Just try to be supportive and she will get through it. I wish you all the best and my sympathies to your family for your loss.
2006-08-17 21:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody responds to grief differently. The fact you feel horrible about getting angry shows that you are NOT a bad person.
Try visiting this site: http://www.grief-recovery.com/
2006-08-17 21:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Duende71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your not a bad person. You just want to help her and you
can't. The only thing that is gonna help is time...
2006-08-21 21:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All good answers. Take jodac up on his very kind offer!
2006-08-17 21:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by warriorwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋