Is it bad to be a 21yr old (almost 22yr old) virgin? And by virgin, I mean never kissed, never done anything...at all...even though there's no real reason but shyness holding you back. the fact that everyone younger and older than you has done at least a little something and here you are having done NOTHING - you don't want people to think you're pathetic and look at you like 'are you serious?' Is that sad or should it not be an issue?
2006-08-17 14:11:03 · 39 answers · asked by meyouokay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a girl. :)
2006-08-17 14:19:16 · update #1
hay im 37 and im a virgin so your not alone yes there are more of us out here waitong for that special some one to lose it on yes it hurts to think about it
2006-08-17 14:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing embarrassing about this at all. There is also no reason you need to tell anyone.
One thing you should know. Even though your friends may be talking about their first experience it doesn't mean it happen. A lot of people want to fit in so bad they will lie about this for the very reason you talk about.
You really should be proud of yourself. Today it is very easy for women to get a man. A smile will do it and the next thing you know you are in bed.
Not having been with a guy by 22 is not the issue you should worry about. It's your shyness. I went through the very same thing you did while young. I was very shy. I couldn't imagine why a girl would want to be seen out with me so I never ask.
I had to be introduced to a girl through my sister. I was shocked but it went well and we were married. I was 23 then.
More people than you will ever know have this same problem. Don't ever think it is pathetic. knowing what I know about shy people I know you are a very special loving girl. You just have to step out of that shell just a bit and guys will find you.
2006-08-17 14:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it isnt bad at all! I would say its a good thing...you havent wasted your first kiss on a relationship that ended years ago, like other people have. Look at this as a positive thing, not a negative one! You arent here to compete with other people to see how many people you've been intimate with. In that sort of thing, i think its better to be less experienced than more.
You have something special to offer that not many people your age do, and thats AWESOME. Being shy isnt always a bad thing, and when you meet someone who wont mind taking the time to make sure you are comfortable, it'll be okay.
I'm a 23 year old virgin, although i have kissed people before, and I am happy to be so. I can save that stuff for someone very, very special...the guy i marry!
2006-08-17 14:18:48 · answer #3 · answered by kari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I am in the exact same position as you, and I mean for the same reason and everything, and around your age (I'll be turning 22 in October). So don't worry, I'm sure there's lots of people in your shoes. I know one day I'll find the right person, and you know what, when I do find him, I think he'll like me better than if I would have been a complete prostitute and done everything with 100+ guys if you know what I mean. So, just don't worry about it. Good night!
And don't pay any attention to that Sara person. She is probably like the type of girl I mentioned above and thinks this situation is "Embarassing". So it's not embarrassing to have done it with tons of guys which I'm sure she has... ? Think about it, sharing anything sexual with a person is very intimate, and not something to just give away as if they were freebies...
2006-08-17 14:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by jemima k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be extremely proud of not giving into any kind of temptation.. there aren't a lot of women who can say that they have done nothing. If the person you are with (or a future partner) truely cares for you then you have nothing to worry about and it would be a non-issue. It is not something that you have to feel the least bit embarassed about. You hold onto your virginity for as long as you want to and don't let some guy talk you into doing something that you aren't ready for (although you seem very strong willed)
You shouldn't knock yourself and feel ashamed about it... it's your choice and you should be proud of it!!
2006-08-17 14:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm only 14 years old so you dont have to listen to my advice but i do give great advice on relationships
i think that you should not think of it as an issue but a thing that happens when the time is right
if you do think of it as an issue, try to be more outgoing like making friends first
by ur age, i would think that maybe you're in college, so start talking to some poeple or joing some groups with people of the same interests
that would be a good way to start
hope i could help =)
2006-08-17 14:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not be an issue no matter what sex you are. You should wait until you feel ready. Don't push yourself into something you are not ready for or do not want to do. Sooooo many people regret the way they lost their virginity. You can make sure that does not happen. I am sorry this question began with "super embarrassing" because you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You should be proud of yourself. If I had to do it all over again I would have waited many many many years later to lose my virginity. You are one in a million! Be proud of who you are!
2006-08-17 14:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by strawberries 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to be ashamed of. if the person you end up with has any kind of brain they will be glad to have met you. don't rush into anything because you can never get it back. i wish i had your courage and strength. i promise this is not a joke by the time i was a freshman in college i had over 100 sexual partners and yes i'm a girl. now that i am older and wiser i see how STUPID i was and pray to God about how thankful i am that i never got a serious std. be proud of how far you have come and encourage other to do the same. congradulations!
2006-08-17 14:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by natalie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey be proud of who and what you are. Why be in such a rush to know what a kiss feels like or what sex is all about?!? You are not pathetic at all. Take your time and explore yourself first, that is the most important thing. You are still young and someday you will find that special someone who is gonna make you feel great inside. When you find that someone or that someone finds you, you will know it cause you are gonna start feeling a lot of beautiful things inside without having to touch him. Trust me I know what it is like to feel something beautiful for someone without touching him at all. Your situation shouldn't be an issue at all. Just wait for the right person and the right time. Good luck and take care!
2006-08-19 16:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is pathetic or an issue. It is a personal thing. Wait til you find the one you wnat to do things with, then do it. Don't do it because everyone around you is doing it. That is not original at all. Be yourself and relax. It will happen. Shyness is a good thing sometimes...hey with everything that is floating around these days...I would not rush into anything! You are ok!
2006-08-17 14:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO there is nothin wrong with that. If that is what you decided to do, then that is your choice. My sis is about to be 25 and she hasnt done nothing so do not feel bad. No if you like 50 years old i would think that there is a serious problem there but other than that, that is a good call.
2006-08-17 14:18:41 · answer #11 · answered by afrprince77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋