should i???

Question

i really like my friend and i cant tell him cuz it will destroy a huge friendship of like 5 yrs what do i do????? should i tell

but i dont consider myself the girl he would date that is only in my eyes though

Answer 1

Just tell him, whatever happens-happens, just remember you were friends first!

Answer 2

So you've had this HUGE relationship for 5 years... and you're Friends and you REALLY like him but if you tell him it will DESTROY the friendship??? Maybe it will destroy your fantasy of what you've been dreaming the relationship "could" be if you told him you had more intimate feelings for him. Maybe you both can shift gears and take the relationship beyond, 'JUST" friendship...maybe huh?? Look "if" this is such a HUGE, friendship shouldn't you be able to share your thoughts and feelings with this Friend? it shouldn't end if it was SO great. Yes it will shift gears maybe you'll both decide to try something more intimate..maybe it will work maybe it won't--- time will tell. But seriously if it's such a great friendship doesn't the possibility exist that maybe you could tell this Friend you think he's swell and talk about what you"re feeling? The worse case scenario could be he says something like I love you too! but only as platonic Friends...but I'm flattered to know that you find me attractive in that way...sometimes growing up means taking risks expressing our feelings.....

Answer 3

You don't positively know that it would destroy your friendship! Maybe he feels the same way about you and he's waiting to see of you'll say something. Like my dad always says, 'You never know until you try!' So tell him you like him and see what happens. And if he says that he only likes you as a friend then tell him that's OK, lets just be friends. I mean, if you guys have been friends this long he wouldn't abandon you just because of a crush! So if I were you, I would tell him and see what happens.
Good luck!! :-)

Answer 4

If he is really your friend, you should be able to say anything to him. Even if he doesn't feel the same way. Or is that what you are afraid of? Why would it destroy your friendship, at least you would know how he feels. Just ask him if he likes you more than a friend and see what happens.

Answer 5

Okay this all depends on how much you like him as a friend as well. I had a best friend that was a guy for almost my whole life. We met in the 2nd grade and was inseperable after that. Around my freshman year in high school the hormones kicked in and I saw him differently and I thought I was in love with him so I told him, he said he felt the same way I did, but sweetie trust me sometimes guys are liars and he used me and went on to the next girl so not only did I lose him as a boyfriend but I lost my best friend in the world. Thats been almost 4 years ago and I still miss him to this day. But I can't take back what we did and what we said so I've lost him and I regret it everyday

Answer 6

I had the same exact problem. I liked this girl I've been friends w/ for 6 years and i was too afraid 2 tell her. I finally did, and now we're bf/gf. Go 4 it. If he's really your friend he still will be, even if he doesn't like u in that way.

Answer 7

well i had that problem before i liked the person for a long time just like you did. then we started going out and it was kind of weird because we thought we were better off as friends. the thing is that we went for it and we seen how it felt to go out with a friend that you had know for a long time. so the only thing i can tell you is that yea you can go for it but it will feel so weird because yall known each other for a ong time now

Answer 8

You should tell him but if he does not feel the same just let go and find someone else but still tell him that you do not want to ruin u guys friendship.

Answer 9

well if u think about it your friendship is already ruined. i mean hes no longer just a friend to you hes something more. I think you should tell him how u feel. do u really want to wonder what would have happened for the rest of your life?? what if hes The One????

Answer 10

Some one will have to make a move, if you want your relationship to change.
After five years, you should be close enough to talk it over. It may embarrass you or him, but nothing major, and how knows, he may feel the same way.
You will never know, unless you two talk.

Answer 11

If you think it won't work out...don't do it....you may be right...go with you're first instinct.....but be sure to make a decision quickly. you never know-he make have his eye on someone else...I say go ahead but first find out if he feels the same way about you then make a move.