My boyfriend doesn't seem to realize the affect hanging out with his ex girlfriend has on me. It's not just that im jealous, she still wants to be with him and sometimes asks him to break up with me and go back with her to raise her child. She has her own boyfriend and a new baby, but still insists on trying to break us up =\. I explained to him over and over how bad this hurts me, and how much i hate when theyre hanging out, but he still does it. Does anyone have any advice?
No stupid answers, if you want your points just type one letter or something and move on with your life.
2006-08-17 13:36:14 · 13 answers · asked by batman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its not his baby. Its her boyfriends. Which is why I'm baffled, wouldnt she want to spend time with her new family.
2006-08-17 13:48:16 · update #1
That's very DISRESPECTFUL.......How long have you'll being together??? That can determine a lot of things for you, 1. Maybe he doesn't think that you trust him, so he is testing the waters. 2. He's probably knows that it is hurting you but he still cares for her as a friend and wants to be there for his friend. 3. She messes with you mainly because you are a easy target, she knows that your bf loves you and she is just jealous of that, She's mad because he probably never showed her that kind of affection, so she preys on his other girlfriends.
I think that you should set up an ultimatum even though that may be hard to do because you really care for him, you have to just stand your ground. Tell him that I care for you and I don't want to end our relationship but that chick(referring to her) is damaging our future. You may not see how it is but she is intentionally pissing me off and asking you to break up with me because she wants you. I understand that you care for her as a friend but do you really want to lose what we have. Really....Answer the question.....Do you? Cont' by telling him baby I love you I think that we have invested a lot of time into this and I can't imagine my life without you because of some chick that wants you back. Baby I am trying to respect the relationship that you have, but baby what if the shoe was on the other foot? I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't want one of my ex boyfriends taking all of my time. You wouldn't would you? So you can see where I am coming from. Baby I just don't get it, but if you want to continue spending time with her, then I will have to go...........
If he doesn't stop you, say I can't believe this you are going to pick her over me, well I guess it's true then we were never meant to be.
Good Luck, Sweetie
2006-08-17 14:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by japanesegeishagirl_chynadoll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, girl, I'm not trying to be mean or anything about this. I went through the same thing with a boyfriend of five years, and it was pure hell! I was miserable, and I constatnly worried that he would go back to her since they had a kid together and he and I didn't.
Well, I thought I loved him and couldn't live without him, so I put up with the crap with his ex for FIVE years, til I caught them literally together one night. He ALWAYS promised me that there was NOTHING between them.
But that night I found out that he was actually telling the truth...cuz there was NOTHING between them...not even CLOTHES when I caught them!!! LOL
You really need to move on and your prince charming will come along, mine did when I let go of that guy and opened my eyes. Now I'm the happiest I've ever been...and married to my prince charming!
Best of luck, hon
2006-08-17 20:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by ladygodivva2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File this one under "lessons learned."
Your boyfriend's "ex" and mother of his child will ALWAYS be in your life... whether you like it or not.
My advice (well, you asked for it ;) would be to remember who you are... how wonderful you are and how much you have to offer someone... someone who isn't encumbered with a child and an ex and etc, etc, etc.
You are the prize. Period.
He may be a nice guy.... but you don't want to spend your life trying to convince someone how they're hurting you.
You're worth a whole lot more than that.
Believe in yourself... and you've got it made.
Promise.
2006-08-17 20:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best idea sit down make a listof the good and bad points of yoour boyfriend and then decide with this list and how him hanging out with his ex makes you feel and then decide what you want and do it.
2006-08-17 20:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he truly love you and you talk with him then he has a choice to make why is she even still coming around she should be with her own boyfriend so tell him it is either her or you and if he picks her then he never really love you and move on you are young and there some one out there for you good luck
2006-08-17 20:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows it hurts you and still does it, then you should move on with your life. Let him go until he decides who he wants to be with.
2006-08-17 20:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is a really problem
well
whenever they hang out try having something planned to say like this
"hey (whatever your bf's name is) wanna go to the movies?"
or"how about you and me going to the mall?"
and if he says no just give him a kiss and say"please"
oh and he won't leave no matter what you say give him a kiss and hold on to him constantly just to remind him and his ex that he's yours
2006-08-17 20:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by brazycan2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should talk to him again an threaten him by saying that its going to be over if u continue to see her.
u should talk to her as well an tell her to stay away from your man.
u should probably talk to her man as well an let him control his girl
2006-08-17 20:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Always Jolly AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has feelings for her. Now what are YOU gonna do? Remember...it's your diary. What cha gonna write in it?
2006-08-17 20:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sounds like hes realy not your bf as he sounds more like a jerk dump him now
2006-08-17 20:54:39 · answer #10 · answered by easymoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋