my mom is really nice to everyone but me.She yells at the top of her lungs and curses for hours. I can never comment or fight back because i just want to end our fighting. I cry for hours. She also says i need to get in shape and i have a stomach. I am 5 feet 3 inches and 95 pounds. My therapists said she needs anger management. What do you think?
2006-08-17 13:24:45 · 12 answers · asked by xoxo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think ur normal shes pyscho jus like my step-mom
2006-08-17 13:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by money 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your mom is not giving you the support you need. I agree that you shouldn't disrespect your parents, but when she starts belittling, you need to stick up for yourself. I'm sure you have already told her that her comments hurt, but you need to be specific about what hurts you so much about them. You may be a child, but you are still entitled to respect and feeling loved in your own home. She may not realize how much these comments hurt you, so it is all the more necessary that you tell her how you feel. This is not being rude or sassy so don't feel badly and if she still doesn't listen, get another relative or your therapist involved. By the way, I'm 5'3 and 120 pounds and my some of my relatives say I'm too thin. Go figure
2006-08-17 20:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by M N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like abuse in the following areas:
MENTAL
VERBAL
EMOTIONAL
PSYCHOLOGICAL
You didn't mention any physical abuse BUT.......
If she HITS you add PHYSICAL ABUSE to the list.
I agree with your therapist. Anger management is needed.
Family counseling would help too.
Maybe you should talk to someone besides your therapist
about this. Possibly a counselor at school, a teacher, another adult family member, your dad if he's available.
You never know when the VERBAL ABUSE will turn to
PHYSICAL ABUSE. This can become DANGEROUS !!!!!
Whatever you do..............
DON'T approach her with any answers you got from people on here......it will only TRIGGER a confrontation with her. and you don't want that.
The answers you get on here are to HELP YOU !!.
DON'T USE IT AS AMMUNITION AGAINST HER.
LIKE I MENTIONED BEFORE, YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE THAT CAN HELP YOU TO EITHER "CHANGE"
THE SITUATION YOU ARE IN OR "GET YOU OUT OF IT AND INTO A SAFE ENVIRONMENT WITH ANOTHER FAMILY MEMBER OR GUARDIAN".
GOOD LUCK, AND KNOW THAT I AM PRAYING FOR YOU.
IN THE MEANTIME....
DON'T argue with her and try not to do anything that you
KNOW for a fact will trigger her temper.
It never hurts to say....I LOVE YOU MOM.
STAY SAFE...BE SURE TO GET SOME "HELP" SOON!!!!!
2006-08-17 20:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by LindaInNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think she does need anger managment because Im 5 feet 7 inches and I only weigh 117 pounds u r really lucky that u don't weigh that much!!!
2006-08-17 20:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by NO DICE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure is, attacks your self esteem. She needs more than anger management, she need to see a shrink. She needs to resolve why she is compelled to vent all her frustrations on you rather than the real source. Whatever the reason you have to protect yourself. Often verbal abuse becomes physical abuse. You didn't mention your age but I would look for alternate living arrangements if at all possible. At least until she gets the help she needs.
2006-08-17 20:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Larry T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom needs a therapist. Don't listen to her. You are below average weight for your height so don't even think about trying to lose weight. Really try to not let her get you down. She's the one with the problem, not you. Is there anyone in your family you could move in with? That's serious mental abuse!
2006-08-17 20:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by renee1724 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know she is your mother, but no one deserves to be treated that way. Tell her if she continues this behavoir towards you ( if you are not living with her) that you will not be visiting anymore and she is not welcome to your place. If you are a minor and still living with her, go to a counsler and let them know what is going on. Verbal abuse is still abuse. She needs help, but no body can make her change but herself. You are not fat. Ignore those comments. Be happy with yourself. Do ot let anybody get to you. Best of luck and stay strong.
2006-08-17 20:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its called verbal abuse, and you're mother does need to see a therapist. Good luck.
2006-08-17 20:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you both need counseling. she may be expressing her love a different way. my mom just had favorites and the other girls she had shouted more to. it is 4 girls and three boys not tomention that she took to te boys more than us. she may not want you t get sick and dont know how to talk to you. abuse isbwhenyou just whip your child cause you dont known how to raise them or everyhtime they cry you whip them or everytime you cant figure out what to do with them you whip them that is abuse yyour mother may be emotonally abusing you with not speaking or expressing herself to you openly. she might not know how to
2006-08-17 20:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
mental abuse
2006-08-17 20:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋