My dad raped me every night for 8 years and i have already got and exam,but i have to get another one to see if i have any damage done.They will be asking me everything about what he did and i don't feel comfortable about it what should i do????
2006-08-17 13:13:16 · 9 answers · asked by freak_christ_jesus 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I'm sorry you have to go through this, but just keep remembering that what you are doing is for the good.
Who do you trust really well? Is it a best friend, your mom, a favorite aunt, a favorite teacher? See if there is anyone in your heart that you would like to be there for you, and ask them if they would come with you. I bet that person would be honored that you would like their support.
The questions will be difficult, but just tell yourself that there is no thinking involved because all you have to do is tell the truth. Just tell it like it was. And if you get to a place you don't want to go in your head, ask them if they can skip that question for now. Remember, it's only their job, they are not trying to hurt you, and it will be over soon.
I really feel for you. I know you'll be ok though. You have made it this far, and the light at the end of the tunnel is near.
You are in my prayers! : )
2006-08-19 18:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a scary thought, about having to tell everyone what happened again when all you wanna do is block it out. I mean you went through 8 years of living hell from someone you trusted and loved. Some men just deserve to rot in hell. Try writing some of it down and then ask them to read that and then ask any questions they may need to. It's gonna be hard and it may not seem like it at the moment but you will get through it. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
It will also help if you find other people who have been through exactly what you are going through. If you want to you can email me and I will be happy to chat with you.
Luv and Hugs. Rachelle.
2006-08-17 20:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rachelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to heal your mind and your soul, you should probably tell the truth. You should also get counseling. A good friend of mine went through the same thing with her dad but never got any help. At 30 years old she was still having problems with her self-esteem, and coping with being a parent.
Other than that, I say castrate the creep!
;o)
Good luck!!!
2006-08-17 20:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by angel_s_garden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do anything that will help you recover from the trauma. If talking about everything that happened is supposed to help, although difficult and uncomfortable, you must do it. I cannot say I know how you feel because I have not been in your situation, but I will pray for you. Just remember that what happened is not your fault and you should not feel embarrased.
2006-08-17 20:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your scared but try writing it down on a piece of paper before going to the doctor that way you can give them the paper and not having to feel uncomfortable about saying it.
2006-08-17 20:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by Shortie1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just understand that the person you will be talking to is used to dealing with this subject. You won't shock them and they will understand that you are uncomfortable talking about it. I expect that they will be helpful and supportive. You're not alone; there are many others who have been through this.
2006-08-17 20:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave. With all you have been through so far--and you think you cannot go through this. Get real. Yes, it will be very embarrassing but as I said--with all the embarrassment that you have endured so far--it will be fine. You will survive.Chin up. Good luck.
2006-08-17 20:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dad needs a SEVERE beating...
2006-08-17 20:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Toraptorsfan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's for the best
2006-08-17 20:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by berumcobbfloosbeilding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋