I traveled 950 miles by car to see my boyfriend. On my lastnight there, he spent the night at a friends apt., in the same complex, rather than with me because his friends were arguing... I woke up twice in the middle of the night and he wasn't there. That morning I packed my stuff and left, leaving him a note telling him how shitty he made feel doing that... Was I wrong for leaving like that? Should I have waited for him to come back? He did call my 30 minutes later, but I was already on the Interstate.... Now we are broken up over this..
2006-08-17 12:55:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you weren't wrong. He's an a$$ and you deserve someone who respects you. HE was the one that was wrong. If you aren't his first priority when you travel MILES to see him.....then what do you think it would be like on a regular?
2006-08-17 13:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right to leave. After driving 950 miles to go see him, he should value the time you were able to spend with him. If his friends are fighting, then his friends can resolve it, he doesn't need to be there for it - certainly not all night.
If you get back together - set down some ground rules first, stick to them. If he really values you, then he'll realize the importance of placing his relationship with you higher on the ladder than his friends - that's if you have a serious relationship that is leading to a commitment. However, if he's not willing, then you know exactly where you stand and you can make a decision based on that.
2006-08-17 20:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant say if you were right or wrong only you can no that but if I were in your shoes I think realistically I would have packed my bags and got the hell out of dodge as well ,that's just plain stupid on his behalf he sacrificed his relationship with you to save a friends and that's assuming that the argument was ever that bad to start with . so in full id say you sacrafice your time to be ignored over a tiff i hope his friends are happy today .
2006-08-17 20:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u were right b/c u need to find a guy that u dont have to wait for and that wants to be with you and not other people....especially when u travel 950 miles just to see him. I think that guy was a jerk ayways and u deserve better.
2006-08-17 20:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that u did anything wrong. u drove all that way 2 c him then he runs off 2 stay somewhere eles on the last night together. i would of left that night. he was the one in the wrong 4 leaving u alone that night.
2006-08-17 20:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by hellosexymoto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were being pretty selfish. If his friends were about to throw down, you couldn't expect him just to leave. Was he there in the Morning?
2006-08-17 20:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Supa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say it was well worth it if he cared he wouldnt have split like that and any whey long distent relation ship dont work its for the better
2006-08-17 20:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by jack ripper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋