I discussed my boyfriend not wanting to perform oral sex on me
or any foreplay outside of kissing. I left out some important details:when we first met and before we started having sex...he said "Oh I can't wait till we start having sex...I'm one of those guys who believes it's all about you. If you are not satisfied then I am not happy until you are. And I LOVE going down...so much you'll be saying 'dude, hey, i'm up here!'
So I guess he lied. I have asked him and talked to him about this...and he has said "Well I like to do it when I'm drunk" (He doesn't drink very often and when he does he passes out) Or "I have to be in the right mood" When is that? I have been waiting over a year. I gave him other options of foreplay like using fingers or stimulating other erotic areas. I bought adult games he never wants to play. Its sucks cuz we get along really great in every other area of the relationship. I don't know if I can just accept it and stay or give up an otherwise great guy. Help
2006-08-17 12:54:42 · 15 answers · asked by soinneed2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he was all talk..its been over a year and he still hasnt done very much,keep him as a friend since hes such a great guy and find another guy who can pleasure you
2006-08-17 13:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple, if you are leaving in the same house, you share computers. so, have a female close friend of your use a guy name and start emailing you. find a picture of a taller, darker, handsomer guy picture then you bf. Then you have to dress nicer as well. But remember to change you friend name on your cell phone. That way he can see how many time the "guy" call and looking over your email. Oh, by the way, wear short dress, that way he will go at you like crazy.
that is mind game, so if you can get him on the jealous side, you win. oh, one more think, he he start going at you in bed, just don't say nothing and be slient the whole time and keep asking him, are you done yet. that would make any guy unhappy.
2006-08-17 13:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with plain old normal sex? The only thing that can improve your sex life if honest communication. If he is communicating that he doesn't like some of the things you desire, then you need to decide just how important they are. If all you care about is your sex life, then you should leave him. If you are more interested in things like commitment and loyalty, then stay.
2006-08-17 13:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can just accept it. Based on the fact that you have asked the question it means something to you. You will have to keep trying to talk to him and hopefully he will try to comply with your requests if he really cares for you. You might try talking to a counselor or someone that can try to help you work out this issue. If it is not resolved it will grow and really become an issue.
2006-08-17 13:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you talked to him about it and he won't change, then you have to make a decision. What is more important to you. Sex is important in a relationship and sometimes it can be a deciding factor in a relationship. Good luck!
2006-08-17 13:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Supa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is a loser, he's unreliable and irresponsible. i might have advised him to take a hike the 2nd time he asked. pass on, there are greater clever men than that. Lord in basic terms is often used with what else he loses or forgets in existence. Who desires that?
2016-09-29 09:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to say about that. They claim they are the MAN and then leave you hanging. But i bet he wants his done. My advice is if he is getting oral from you just simply STOP until he wants to play fair.
2006-08-17 13:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by cami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun
dont perform any oral sex at all to him...and then he will know how it feel
believe me that he´s going to start doing it and with a smile hahaha
2006-08-17 13:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you need help with? He is not satisfying your needs. Leave. He is selfish and it's just gonna get worse. He gets what he wants and you don't. Why stay?
2006-08-17 13:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship will probably never work out. sex is one of the most important things of a relationship,and if its not good now it probably never will be
2006-08-17 13:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by boo boo bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋