I once thought I was in Love with a man who I had never met. I met him in an AOL chat room and we started chatting online and then on the phone. We grew into good friends and then it became something more. When we first started talking on the phone he revealed to me that he had a son and that he had been to prison for five years based on accusations from the child's mother that he tried to kill them. He had temper, trust, and control issues. I kept up this relationship for more than 8 months. I finally realized that he was controlling despite the FEW things that actually attracted me to him. I came to the conclusion that I was blinded by my first encounter with love after considering the situation. I Ended this relationship in January and am in a new one. It is very healthy. He's never been to jail, doesn't have any kids, and has a stable job. No temper problems and is in no way controlling. How does a person come to be in a relatonship with COMPLETE opposites? Comments?
2006-08-17 12:52:57 · 25 answers · asked by katiej47 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess if you strip away all the good and the bad, and look at the core of the person, who they really are, you must have seen something you liked.
Don't simplify it into "they are opposite" just realized that you are probably a different person now then who you were then, and the you then liked him, the new and improved, matured, and grown you has found some one a little closer to your level
2006-08-17 13:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off why be with someone who wasn't completely honest with you in the beginning and then why would you stay with him after he concealed such a huge thing as being in prison? You don't go to prison based on accusations.Anyway you probably wanted to fix him after you found out his troubled past...don't no one can fix others only themselves. In this case it wasn't opposites, it was doomed from the start because he wasn't honest and it was a great try from you to love and be with someone new. At least now you learned a great lesson and have moved on. Life is a learning opp what you make of it is your business.
2006-08-17 20:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have learned your lesson....and moved on with your newfound wisdom. WAY TO GO!!!!
Your encounter with the first man taught you about what you don't want from someone. He taught you what kinds of guys to avoid, and how to spot them better.
You trusted you gut and realized that he had reinvented himself for you, and you only fell in live with who you thought he was....
Everyone we encounter teaches us more about ourselves. It gives us more experience with people and we learn what we want for ourselves......
You were courageous enough to move on, and to not let the first man represent ALL men, and you gave another man a chance. Now your reward is a guy you can brag about. Doesn't that feel good?
2006-08-17 20:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, meeting people over the Internet, they can make you believe they are something their not... and how are you supposed to know?! They type just what you want to read... and they are good at it...so that's why you have to be very careful.....
2006-08-17 20:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlling people are very manipulative. He just made you think you were in love with him to get his way. It was not based on fact.
2006-08-17 19:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by kingskid418 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you made a bad decision.. big deal. It's happened to the best of us. I spent five years dealing with the same butthead because I thought we were destined.
2006-08-17 19:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by dhalia_1977 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
opposites attract is bull enless yr a ***** and hate yrself! ! !.... so.... i say u should get somone who u know arent screwed up... and i wouldent trust n e one who was put in jail 4 n e thing like that
2006-08-17 20:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because sometimes we dont choose...we just take what we have and try to make it work..and it never works
im happy for you cause you realized about the situation quickly
good luck and congrats
2006-08-17 19:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're crazy! You learned from your "experience" and that in my book is "smart! If you had gone out and done the same thing all over, then that would have been "dumb" and crazy!
2006-08-17 20:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard the saying, opposites attract? Its like that.
2006-08-17 19:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋