Today i spoke to an Ex- boyfriend and eventhough i'm in a happy relationship now with someone wonderful i still felt left over feelings for this ex. like it felt good to talk to him and for a fleeting moment it felt like i missed him. i feel guilty for feeling this way. is this a betrayal towards my current boyfriend?
2006-08-17 12:48:52 · 33 answers · asked by Ladylck13 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well we spoke over the instant messenger so it wasnt a face to face meeting, plus he lives in new york and i live in california so the chance of us two meeting in person for anything is about Zero. i think its best i go back to not speaking to him anymore, i have to keep in the mind the reasons be became my EX in the first place. thanks folks
2006-08-17 15:55:49 · update #1
it's not betrayal, it's just nostalgia and it's always nice to remember the good times you shared together.
2006-08-17 12:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not betrayal. It is completely normal to still have a place in your heart for someone you used to be close to. In fact, if you didn't, you may seem cold. As long as you only felt feelings for a second, and you realize why you two split up in the first place, then I wouldn't worry about it. If you continue to miss this ex for a long time to come, and you can't remember why you broke up, then maybe you need to step back and evaluate where you should go from here.
Best of luck to you!
2006-08-17 12:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a betrayal only if you cheat on him with your ex would it be or if you were talking about getting back together without him knowing your feelings for your ex. You are over him, but it just feels good to reconnect with those you haven't seen in a while and just talk and know they're okay. You might be confusing missing him with romantic feelings for him. Your boyfriend shouldn't be controlling who you talk to all the time either. Unless he gives you a good reason why and it's because he cares about you.
2006-08-17 12:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your ex-boyfriend have a history and you will always have that history. For a fleeting moment you did miss him. Whatever was good will always be good. This is in no way a betrayal of your current boyfriend.
2006-08-17 12:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should be sure of your feelings before you start dating because what if someday you cheat on your current bf with your ex? Take some time off and think about whether or not you still have feelings for your ex because I don't think your current bf wants you dating him but still having feelings for someone else.
2006-08-17 12:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by michelleee♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really wrong to still have feelings or to care....but remember an ex is an ex for a reason...then think back and remember why he is an ex and that should make you feel a little better.
2006-08-17 12:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by corry692001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't betrayal. You used to care for the ex, and you had a fond memory of that feeling. Just don't try to go after the ex and get him back.
2006-08-17 12:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Betrayal would be if you slept with you're ex. It's only natural to still have those feelings rise up.
2006-08-17 12:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to talk to an Ex, or any guy for that matter.....unless you have a crazy, obsessive, controlling boyfriend now or something like that(then you are talking your life into your own hands...good luck).
2006-08-17 12:54:07 · answer #9 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah --you didn't act on those feelings did you? We all have felt this way at some point in our lives. Focus on the real deal in front of you and don't look back!
2006-08-17 12:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by jiffypop88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you feel you missed him but im sure you miss the moment you shared with him
you missed those happy moments ...but remember that if you are ok with your bf now dont do anything cause the other guy is your past and your bf your future
2006-08-17 12:53:37 · answer #11 · answered by miliscal123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋