My dad's an alcoholic and is supposedly sober now but the problem is, he's a jack@ss. He likes to come home and start up trouble. It's like the dlckead thrives on making others angry. I can easily over power him and when he tries to wrestle me I end up hurting him. So he goes around and shows everyone his bruises that I gave him and say I abuse him. The dumass always starts it and I'm pretty much defending myself. What should i do?
2006-08-17 12:25:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
pee on him while he is asleep.
2006-08-17 12:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
my dad was an alcoholic. he was very abusive anyway are you sure he isnt drinking anymore? he is going through so serious withdrawels it sounds like has the doctor got him on anabues it a pill they take to control the drastic changes going on in the body.the best way to deal with this situation is to ask him if hes unhappy and why is he making your life hard just because his is. if you tell him hes an *** and that you love him no matter what. it should change his whole attitude if not consider going to an aa meeting alone to help you cope with him. i know its hard but you can get through it. just keep telling him that you love him. it will blow his mind and make him think of what hes doing. he will change trust me. good luck.
2006-08-17 20:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by doreen g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear nate I have also got a dum@ss for a stepfather who is kind of the same.When i lived at home he ues to come into my grannyflat when i lived out the back of my mothers and pick fights with me a couple of times he hit me so hard that i was knocked out for hours he ues to fight with me over nothing and every time it was when he was drunk. I hated it my mother did nothing so i had to take matters into my owen hands i ended up calling a mental heath team and told them about how i was getting abused and the only way i knew how to stop it was to reataliate back with hitting as well they ended up putting him in anger manegment and said if he did it once more they would admmit him to a mental home. So every time he came to abues me all i had to do was call the police and have them pick him up were they called his mental health team and he was addmited every time until he learnt im not he escape goat for his anger. There is a mental health team in every community center just give them a call if not for him for your peace of mind they will help and give you the advise that you need.good luck and dont give up.
2006-08-17 20:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by sweety yhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dads a lush too but he never touches me depending on how i feel i usually just agree with him till he gets bored or ask him what the heck he's even talking about till he says to stop arguing with him and goes away, sorry bro, good luck.
2006-08-17 19:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by jokedrugs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try ignoring him. He has pretty much proved himself worthless. He is trying to make you feel bad so he can feell better. If iggnoring him doesn't work, then tell him that he has been a bad father and if he wants to stay your father then he has to try harder and stop being a dumbass. You may have to get away from him. Don't let his misery affect you and ruin your life. He ruined his own life and he shouldn't ruin yours
Good Luck!
2006-08-17 19:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try al-anon. When they quit drinking they certainly can make your life miserble. You are used to them being gone all the time when they were drinking. I hope your father is getting some sort of counseling. Or at least going to a.a. Good luck.
2006-08-17 19:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by hello 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him, if you are capable of moving away do it. He needs help and no one can make him get it, he has to want to.
People like that like to have control over everything and they will manipulate, lie, cheat whatever they have to to make people think they are the victim. It's how they control others.
2006-08-17 19:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by starlet_80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well basically you ARE abusing him. You don't have to stay and fight. You can walk away. Since I figure you're living under his roof you can either go by the rules of the house or get out on your own.
2006-08-17 19:31:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of how you feel about him, he is still your father. Don't look down on him because of his weakness. Do you feel like more of a man when you degrade and humiliate him? Does it make you feel strong to hurt him? I understand that he's not perfect, but neither are you. Learn to love him from a distance if you don't enjoy his company.
2006-08-17 19:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best advise I can give yeah is just stay away from him. Don't end up like him. Just walk away. and when your old enough move out and he is still your father just remember it is the beer talking and he really does love you,
2006-08-17 19:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by bobsdidi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, well i grew up with a father that choose piss over his kids, and he choose roots too...over his kids... he hit me afew times.. almost killed me at the age of 4... i now have 7 beautiful babys of my own..and my world... sorry your father is what he is... move out fast... and don't look back... never feel you have to be a son cause he ain't a dad... good luck mate!!!! here if you need to chat about it..k...
2006-08-17 19:43:40 · answer #11 · answered by MUM D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋