will my kitten and my cat ever get along?

Question

Hi. Me and my wife recently got 2 new male kittens. We already have a 4 year old cat. She is a shy girl. She wont come up to people unless she knows them or feels very comfrtable around them right away (rare) and even when she wants to nuzzle with us she likes to be invited before jumping on you (she will squek to let you know). Anyway we followed all instruction we could find, introducing them slowly even useing plug ins and oils that you put on there ears. Well they haven't gotten into an all out fight but our cat seems pretty scared of them. I am particularly concerned b/c one of the cats is somewhat aggressive (not in a mean way but well he seems like and alpha male). At times I even think he is doing stuff to upset my cat- sitting in her favorite spot when she gets up or tring to keep her away from her litter box. I am not usre about those last things but I feel bad for my cat and I would like to keep them all but I really want her to be happy. Any advice

its not like I want my shy cat to beat the aggressive one up but I would perfer that she is the boss if there is one. Do kitten ever wind up dominating there adult counterparts?

Answer 1

She probably won't ever be thrilled with them, but I imagine they will get used to each other. If you haven't already, you do need to neuter those male cats. That will cut down on the aggression quite a lot. Our cats are good at finding their own special roosting and hiding places around here. They find very ingenious ways of avoiding one another, and everybody is fine. We have a litter box for each cat. That helps a lot.

Answer 2

It just takes time...sometimes a lot of time. I've been thru that many times...including going thru it right now. Some cats take longer than others to adjust. Set aside some time to be with your cat alone where the kittens can't disturb you and give her lots of love and affection...everyday. Even my alpha cat (14 years old, doesn't take anything from anyone) is tolerating the kitten a little more each day, but she really appreciates our alone time. Good luck!

Answer 3

I have a lot of experience with cats. Including introducing new kittens to older cats. Usually the cat doesn't get along with the new kitten at first, but after they get used to each other they'll get along fine. But it takes time for the older cat to adjust, so just be patient. As for the kitten torrmenting your cat I had a cat that wouldn't let my other cats use the litter box, or even eat, drink, or leave the basement. Unfortunately we had to get rid of that cat for the sake of the others.

Answer 4

If they came from the same litter, they will get along. Yet when coming from different litters, the alpha will do their job and eliminate the weaker one. Its all about the strong will live. Like the wolves help keep a herd in check and clean out the weak, disabled. If there was no wolves, a herd can get out of control, over populate and reduce the grazing that's needed to help keep them alive.
Please forgive me for being blunt though, its about life, survival.
yours truly sissa~

Answer 5

It sounds like the boy kitties are trying to be "top cat" (pardon the expression). Are they neutered? That will change a lot of things once they are.

I had the same sorta situation and they never really got on, but after the boys were neutered they tolerated each other and left the old lady to herself.

GIve it time :)

Answer 6

well the cat, already has the household and now a kitten has come and is getting attention, just pay attention to the cat as well, and maybe if it gets bad then separate the to, but still pay attention to both, maybe give the cat special attention like snacks or the mice w/catnip in them to make the cat feel better

Answer 7

Yes it will take time, I was in the same situation that you are in, I had a cat, 3yrs then got two male kittens. It will take time. Then when your not looking they will be nice to each other, when you catch them being nice to each other then the start fighting, its kinda funny the way cats act.

Answer 8

if theres all out fighting or drawing blood you will need to get rid of the new aggressive kitten. but its possible that the new kitten is just sitting in her spot to get used to her smell. however the best answer you can recieve is GIVE THEM SOME MORE TIME.

you really need to make sure all the cats are fixed to help with their bonding process

Answer 9

Cats take a long time, often, to adjust to a new kitty brought into the home. Be patient. Show lots of affection to the older cat. My cat took six months to adjust, but now they are fine!

Answer 10

I just posted in the question above yours about the Bach flower essences. Use that email address if you want further help from me in using them

I sense this is another Larch-Mimulus situation. The combination of these two essences could help your darling baby girl cope with these rambunctious kittens.

The Larch is for her self-confidence in handling these tiny terrors. The Mimulus for any present or past fears she may be harboring in her psyche.