Is my boyfriends adult daughter too attached to her dad?

Question

Hi. I've been dating this lovely man for about two years now. However his adult daughter seems not to think much of me. She's been cold to me for as long as I've known her. On the other hand I'm wondering if my boyfriends relationship with his daughter is a little bit too close. For ex.,





1. She's 25 yrs old and still calls her father daddy




2. They call each other every day and talk for about 30-45 minutes




3. She tells him everything




4. Her job requires her to be on her feet alot so she'll often come to her dad house and he'll rub her feet while they talk about their day.




5. When they take walks together they actually hold hands.




6. And finally, she doesn't think much of sitting on her dads lap and cuddling.








Is any of this unusual? I don't have any kids myself, and I wasn't very close to my own dad to know whats normal in a adult father-daughter relationship. My boyfriends really great and we plan on getting marr

Answer 1

You jealous selfish whore!!!

1. From the moment we even think about having a daughter...to the end of time...They are the love of our lives. We have wiped their asses, noses, and anything that has ran or been pushed out of their bodies with pure love. Us real men with daughters love them unconditionally and would die a billion horrible deaths for our daughters. "What type of relationship do you have with your father?" I bet it is not close at all.....

2. People who are close do this...In fact that is a pretty low talk time. I alone talk to my mother 3 to 5 times a day for about a total talk time of a couple of hours. You will find that the majority of these conversations are not about interpersonal stuff, but just talking about things in the world, what's new in ones life, or just shooting the sh!t. People who don't really have anything to say or do, just do not get it because nothing changes in their lives. "How smart are you?" are you an intelectual?" I bet you have a basic education and only read magazines or fictional books where you can pretend to be something you wish you could be....

3. This is connected to what I covered in No.1... Close fathers and daughters (or mothers and sons), talk about everything. Funny how you see all of these commercials that tell parents that they should talk to their kids about drugs, smoking, and even sex....Seems that your boyfriend has done a damn good job and creating a open communications system with his daughter that some people only wish they could do...and yet you find fault with it.... "Do you have secrets that show you to be a damaged, selfish, lord knows what?" Are there things that if he knew about, he would run away and never look back, cursing the day he met you...hmmmmmm....I think there are....

4. Lets see..."My child is in pain....let her suffer?" My two daughters, from the time they were born, have had me rub their backs to go to sleep....Though I do not do this everynight...there are times when I feel them crawl into bed with me and say..."Rub Back daddy" or "Daddy please rub my back" (depending on who is saying it). If you boyfriend is a damn good daddy (which he seems to be), he has rubbed those feet thousands of times..." Are you jealous that she gets that and you never had your father do the same?"...I think you are....and it drives you crazy....

5. To a daughter, her father is her first love...and to a man, his daughter is a perfect love filled with only the need to give...it is perfect...As a father holding your daughters hand is how you protect her from the evils of the world as you are supposed to do. She holds you hand because she feels protected.... Once again...you are jealous that you never had this....

6. Once again...Because you have never had this type of relationship, you do not understand it....

This is usual for a parent to do this for their children...My advice to you is to leave this man alone and find someone who is as selfish as yourself...You will never marry this man because he will never pick you over his daughter...and you will never understand this type of relationship...Be an adult and let him find a woman who is mature enough to hand this, and.or has her own children....

Answer 2

Let's see....

I call my father daddy and I'm 30

I call my father everyday sometimes more because he retired and lives alone

I tell my father everything

My dad doesn't like feet but I think he would rub them if they hurt me and he wasn't disgusted by them. He has rubbed my head when I was stressed though when me and my daughter go over.

I cuddle up on my dad's arm when we walk around and so does my sister.

Okay the sitting on the lap thing is a little too far for an adult. I haven't sat on my dad's lap since I was like 10-11 and only when I was crying or hurt then.

I don't know about this one...She just may be a big kid or just a daddy's girl. I guess it's how they actually interact..you know..the looks, the way they touch, stuff like that.

If you saw them and didn't know them...the question is...Would you think they were a couple? I would take it from there.

Answer 3

Being that most people judge others from their own experiences I can understand why their level of closeness seems weird to you. Everything except for #6 on your list sound normal. I say even if it weren't for #6 you are definitely jealous of their relationship. Try not to make assumptions because you could end up losing the man you love. On another note, to empathize with you, it's always a little hard to deal with "your" man putting a lot of attention elsewhere, even if it is his family. But on the brighter side if you two have kids, at least you know he'll be a loving dad.

Answer 4

i think shes too needy and he isnt letting her grow up someof the stuff is okay but the rubbing her feet sitting on his lap at 25 is just kinda weird are you sure she's his biological daughter you better look into that my daughter is 8 and alot of that is just considered inappropriate in our house i wasnt raised up that way and my kids wont be either i can just imagine what her boyfriend thinks if she has one.

Answer 5

Being a man, and with a dirty mind, I would think there is more going on with the two of them then what you see. I would say it is unusual relationship,

Cuddling with a 25yr old daughter, not good.

Answer 6

the sitting on the lap and holding hands part is a bit too much but i think with the calling him daddy still (you are overreacting!)

Answer 7

I'm 14. Everonce in awhile when my dad gets home, i rub and smell his feet as we talk about our day, theres nothing wrong with that, i love feet...but some of the other stuff is inapproite

Answer 8

HELL YES, BIG DADDY DUM ***---sick man sick! I'm a mom, have a daughter--was a daughter too! MAN is a man--daughters need to learn to NOT be so touchy feel anything that may be NOT FATHERLY--25???really! with there dad. THAT SHIP HAS SAILED BY THE TIME THE KID IS 5, U DUM STUPID bas-td ! Its men like you that cause so much pain for everyone! The only feet getting rubbed is mamas, after all she does for YOU the family! Sittin' on the lap,(25) are you kidding---what's that about! YOU BEST HOPE YER DAUGHTER DONT LAND A MAN LIKE YOU---has a daughter and his sits on his lap--while she looks on! You taught yer daughter nothing about how men should be with there daughters--RESPECT, BOUNDERIES, LOVE IN >>>NOT in the wrong places! STUPID


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Answer 9

way to close, i've always questioned those relationships also, does she have a man? what does he think of her sitting on daddys lap? nasty and perverse.

Answer 10

outside of the cuddling, sounds ok. cuddling leads elsewhere