At what age should you stop giving your kids bare bottom spanking?

Answer 1

It all depends on the child. What your talking about is simply a spanking, ( not sick, gross, abusive ) as many people are stating. Spankings become abusive when they leave permanent marks ( bruises, welts, scars ) other then temporary redness. The question is considered an "old fashioned spanking" which work wonders with defiant children. I say stop around 11-12, around that area.

Answer 2

First of all, at no age should you give a child a bare bottom spanking. I good swat on the clothed butt of a child up to the age of 5 is a great way to get their attention and tell them you mean business. After that, you are much better off with time outs, and that sort of thing. Keep in mind that we live in a society today that frowns on corporal punishment, and also, a bare bottom spanking could be construed by child protection people as something sexual. I know it sounds bizarre, but that's how it is today. Protect yourself and your child from needless investigation and eliminate this form of punishment. Besides, as I recall from being a child, there were times when I was confined to my bedroom in a timeout for a couple of hours and I WISHED the punishment could have been quickly over with a spanking. Please know that I agree that an over the knee spanking can do wonders for a child's attitude, but we live in a time when people are sensitive to this sort of thing. Blame the sexual predators out there. Obviously, most parents who wish to give a bare bottom spanking simply want to teach their children a lesson. You just can't do it now.

Answer 3

Maybe this is not the answer you like to hear, but the reality is not always that easy. But if you teach a kid that it's right to use violence to correct another person to it's likings, that's no good thing on the first place. If you use violence then this is always a sign of your own mental incapacity to handle the situation. In most cases there are many other options to "manipulate" your kid into doing what you want, and in the mean time you teach them something good. Try rewarding them when they do something good. Many kids are already happy with a very big hug and some extra love and attention, so don't try to materialize the reward too much (then they could become greedy and manipulative). It could be the kid's picking up wrong behavior somewhere else, but I think in most cases it's the parents themselves that cause the kid to act "wrong" in the first place, because in some way they don't show consistency in their own behavior. If you really like to know what to do then you should talk to a consultant and explain the situations in which you think you have to spank your kid. If you are really honest to such a person (accept the fact that you and/or your partner might be doing something wrong yourself in the first place), then in most situations they can help you and make suggestions about what you should do different for the kid to behave normal. But please, don't hurt your kids.

Answer 4

once there old enough to stop getting spanked.
I say around 12 or 13. Parents should stop after grade school, an occasional one in middle school is OK, but Never ever in high school. It all depends on the child. These kind of spanking are 100x more effective then a "pants up" one.

Answer 5

Here is a very wise answer that I found in a book called "Shepherding Your Child's Heart" by Ted Tripp. You should no longer spank on the bare bottom when you are no longer performing any bodily "maintenance tasks" that are related to your child's private areas, such as wiping their bottoms or helping them bathe. About the age that you no longer perform any of those tasks for them, they have developed a modesty that should be respected. That makes perfect sense, don't you think?

Just an aside about spanking, it is a perfectly acceptable and wise form of discipline when performed in a thoughtful, consistent manner. Of course you never spank when angry or enraged -- that's when a child learns that spanking comes from a parent's emotions and that's detrimental to the child. But a timely spanking followed by an apology from the child and forgiveness for wrongdoing from the parent is a time-honored way to teach appropriate respect and obedience.

People who think spanking teaches violence are as nonsensical as anyone who would say that a police officer carrying a handgun is advocating shootouts. Godly parents use appropriate methods to instill a respect for law and order.

Answer 6

13

Answer 7

Why don't you ask the child? In my experience, kids choose worse punishments for themselves than you would choose for them. They tend to learn best that way, too, when it's their own choice what they deserve. You ask by saying, "How do you think you should be punished?" when you catch him doing something wrong, and usually they'll pick something worse than you had in mind. This method generally helps kids realize that not only did they choose to do something that resulted in punishment, but that they were involved in choosing the punishment that would help them not do it again. It helps them learn to self-regulate their behaviour and grow a sense of self-control.

And then you don't have to ask when to stop giving them spankings of any kind, because they're free to tell you themselves, exactly what works for them.

Answer 8

Bare bottom spanking - never! It's humilating. think about how you would feel if your pants were dropped to your ankles and you were swatted on the bottom. I believe in spanking as punishment, but never naked.

Answer 9

I dont believe in bare bottom spanking as i had it done to me as a child with a leather belt. I would try using other techniques like re-directing them to other things they can play with or do if they are younger and i know for myself when i was older, taking away priviliges like televsion and computer worked better than any spanking ever did.

Answer 10

My mom always said "As long as you're young enough to live in my house, you're young enough to be spanked"


But bare bottom spanking? I think that's wrong. Spanking is great, but it shouldn't be flesh on flesh.