Are you able to be friends with your ex?

Answer 1

hell no

Answer 2

Yes.

But..........my story is one of a kind.

I met the father of my daughter when we worked together in a hat company. We were mates for 6 yrs before we went on our first....and last date. So I suppose we're not the same as you and your ex. See... I wanted to have a baby...so I got drunk on our date and ended up at his place. But I know we had sex in my car as there was massive evidence on my car seat as I was a virgin. For days I was in pain. But I concieved and that's that.

We have worked in different jobs he and I for the past 8 years, but we've managed to work together for my daughters sake. He isn't one of those guys that imposses his rights. And I'm not one of those women that would take his daughter from him...I already did that!! haha...LOL no just joking.

He's fine with it. I didn't tell him until I was 6 months pregnant. I don't remember much about the whole thing that night...but I'm sure it's something we would never bring up. Sorry if this offends anyone but a girl's got to do what a girl's got to do. My fiancee knows this and I he's fine with it. My "Ex" is a friend of the family as well. So it's best to get along.

Phew....so Yes...I think you and your ex can be friends, as long as there isn't anything he still has that you want. Are you over him? Is he over you? Ask yourself....what do you feel when you see him with another girl? How does he react to you and your new romance?

Answer 3

depends on the reason for the break up in the first place! id say, something like if he cheated on you or you cheated on him uhhh..good luck, that would have to be a mutual agreemtn and discussed rather clearly. being friends with ex's can get you into uncomfortable situations in the future though...think what you might feel about seeing him with his next girlfriend? or how you might feel when introducing your new boy toy to him? and also thnk about the new one your taking on..i know my boyfriend/date wouldnt be very excited to meet my ex who im still friends with, for some reason?! the way i see it, i think when its over its just that and there should be no more to it. if you can remain friends without touching and causing drama all the time, go for it! oh hell, just try it out if you really want to, but make it clear that nothing can happen and if the temptation is there i would recamend having a serious discussion with this romeo.

Answer 4

Yes, but it took more than a year. Understand, I had been in a relationship where we spoke everyday, and did things together on the weekends. Then, things changed. It took longer for my calls to be returned, and sometimes we spent weekends apart. My then bf was involved in a film project, so I figured that was the reason. Then, several months later, I ran into a friend who asked me how I was doing, since the relationship was over. I was like 'huh?'. Turned out it wasn't just the film and my bi-sexual boyfriend was involved with a guy. It was something of a shock. I cried a lot, well more than a lot, and we parted. It was especially bad because I was always running into him and his bf, who regarded me as a threat and so was extremely hostile towards me. I missed my ex's company and as I came to find out months later, he missed mine as well. He stood up to his bf and we reconnected. These days, believe it or not, all three of us are close friends.

Answer 5

I'm still friends with one of my exes. We dated for 4 years and broke up about 2 years ago. The only way it'll work though is if neither one of you are still attracted to each other. Because if you still have feelings, it's gonna make it complicated. I can't even imagine kissing my ex now....it's sooo weird lol.

Answer 6

I have not been able to stay friends with any of my ex-boyfriends, I guess it all depends on the situation in which the break up happened.

Answer 7

I think that depends on how intimate you were with him. If you had a very intimate sexual relationship. Then you will have a very intimate sexual friendship. If it was not that good in the bedroom, then you will probably be friends for a bit. It also, depends how deep your feelings were for eachother. If you really were inlove with him, would you be able to see him with another girl? Would he be able to see you with another guy?
I have stayed friends with one of my ex's for 13 years. Mind you, we are more like eachothers backup now. We were very young and I guess we remind eachother of our younger more innocent days.

Answer 8

No I never want to see my exes face again! I hate him so much. He said he cared and that he loved me but all he wanted was some ***. When he broke up with me he said i was a fat whore who wanted attention from some guy. And that he cheated on me 4 times with these girls at his church and his old school. I was lke **** YOU! And then i went on with my life and my friend Jeremy was there to make me feel better then i found out that Jeremy liked me so i went out with him. And Jeremy is my exes best friend. Now i found someone that does care not like my ******* ex!

Answer 9

yes you are able to be friends with an ex, But it is never a good idea. Emotions come back. Then Jealousy strikes.

Answer 10

Well it took several years but finally we have been able to be friends... he is now married with a baby girl.. His wife isn't crazy about the two of us being friends but now that I am married to and have a son.. I'm sure this puts her mind at ease..

Other ex's..... NOT ON YOUR LIFE!! some of them its not even worth it..

Answer 11

If your ex isn't an @ss you can. You should lay down some ground rules...maybe don't talk about each other's social lives for a while, keep it platonic - discuss movies, books, TV, anything but sex and relationships. It may take a while, but it's possible.