Why does love hurt so much?

Question

Why does love hurt so much? At first you feel so happy and so alive. You give them everything. But the once they'r gone, you are left with nothing. Your world is a living nightmare and you're falling apart. Piece by piece.Your mind says you hate them but your heart says you miss them. You've tried to get over them but it's no use. You have been hurt so bad and you've been kicked when you are already down. You dream about them and yet you want the dreams to go away. Everytime you remember them you break down and sob. Wondering what went wrong and why did it happen. You say you will not give in, but you are already down on your knees looking for hope. Why does love hurt so much? I maybe young and have a whole life ahead of me. But still, it hurts everyone at one point. Why? Is it because I'm not meant to be loved? It hurts me so much, but I can't do anything to make the pain go away.

Answer 1

That is not love-love is something u don't fall into that would be like fall in a lake- love is something that takes time to "grow" into not fall into. and you will learn to compromise fro respect and the giving part but it has to be on both parties. Don't break down as this is a blessing to prevent you from being married or living together with someone who is not ready. Have a guidline and what it is you don't want. Always have your heart safeguarded. You need to love yourself as you are alone and be able to make yourself happy alone without needing a guy for your whole lifes happiness.. I see this is a slight problem with you.

Answer 2

You poor girl - I feel for you so very much! Because yes, you're right - we have all been through this at some point (well, most of us who have ever loved, that is). It isn't that we've done anything wrong, it's because we need certain experiences to help us grow & develop, and learn on our journey through life. You will get over it, and come out the other side stronger, and probably eventually grateful for the whole experience, because you will have learned such a lot about yourself and your feelings, and what you are capable of. I know you will find you soulmate - most of us do - and I hope you find him soon. You seem like a young lady with a lot of love to give to someone who not only deserves you, but can give the same love in return. Don't worry, he's out there somewhere! He may even be going through what you are at this time, wondering when he's going to be loved! And when it does come, it'll be worth waiting for, believe me. I had 2 relationships which almost killed me when they ended (the last one literally), but at the age of 50 I finally found my soulmate and am now very happily married & settled with the love I always knew was waiting. It will be the same for you, my dear, don't give up. Good Luck & Good Love to you!!

Answer 3

Fallen Angel, evryone has beenhurt at some point in life. But Love is a feeling that is shared with someone a feeling that makes u go crazy and beyond. Love has a feeling of hatred and revenge love dies slowly and later forever ends.

But Love Breaks your heart, Love makes a change in everything, Love makes it Hard and itfades away so easily. and remeber that love takes no less than everything Love makes it hard and it turns it into the beauty that u see.

At some point in life you will realize that even when u r in love u will encounter difficulties that will ache your heart. Even when u r not in love u will be hurt no matter what the sitiation. Just keep in mind that love hurts and it hurts because the person u love probably knows that u care deeply for him and when that happens he became unattracted 2 u becaue he knows that u will do anythinng for him and to keep him.

Answer 4

ive got no idea, i hate this feeling to, to wake up in the morning and to know that its over,it literally kills inside...to question constantly what went wrong and why? Im having a hard time making the pain go awya too, just when i think im okay it creeps back up and i fall back into the hole of hurt...but i found what helps lately is to stay away, try not to end up in situations where u have to talk to the person, and do nice things for yourself...let him see later on what he missed out on and lost...show him your better and if he ever comes begging back for you, you need to think about it , think of how he made u cry and feel so hurt that he was gone. I guess time heals all,there will be ups and downs to when u feel good one day and completely down the next. I dont think its cus your not meant to be loved or anything like that, if we think that way we wont ever be able to get out of this...so just remember things are always changing, ppl come and go and i guess the ones that stay were meant to be there. Or another way to think about it is, is he sitting there spending as much time as you are being upset and hurt over it? or is he on his way not caring and moving on? how does that make u feel? hurt yes, but it makes u think that Hey i need to get over this worthless person who wont give me the time of day...i duno what else to say....take care

Answer 5

the remedy is simple food Take a large glass trow in two marshmallows add a little shaved chocolate two scoops of ice cream caramel fudge sauce and to with crushed nut ( not his giggle) top with a fresh strawberry and take orally . if pain continues repeat prescription over . cry a little because it hurts get a Friend in and chat over a good movie and in time and it will take time and a couple of tubs or more of ice cream the tears will dry and you will have just happy memories as the next special stranger becomes your love .

Answer 6

I honestly can't say why love hurts so much. All i can say is that u need to learn to depend on yourself and EXPECT failure that way when it happens u won't be hurt. i know it is hard but it helps and u learn to mend ur self. u'll get over the boy soon but it may take some time. Don't beat ur self up about it but focus on the good times and be thankful he was part of ur life. Always remember God loves you! and he will do anything for you. Talk to him. it helps. i mean think about it? He sent His one and only Son to this earth to die for our sins and give us a chance of eternal life!

Answer 7

its human to have everything best for oneself and this is the main reason for not accepting when you dont get what you want. If you understand the world around and be contended with whatever you get in life and not going after material things will help overcome the hurt you feel or love

Answer 8

love hurts only because it is an internal feeling that reveals itself outwardly,,,u hurt from the inside out, so then only "time" can heal it, u will have to go thru the pain till its gone,,love is kept way inside till exposed but u gotta remember love can b controlled, u can controll how much of that inner feeling u want to expose, unfortunatly we tend to expose it all at once, when we choose that avenue, we may be setting ourselves up for the big hurt, u need to expose it little by little, in ur case u gave the whole feeling and now that inner feeling is injured so ur hurting,,,,love plus love equals love,,,but must b pursued in little bits, never give all of ur love unless u want to hurt. love does not hurt, but when exposed someone can hurt ur love,,,,scorpion

Answer 9

I completely understand how you feel and I don't know if you have a bible handy but look up 1corithians13-1-13. It's the biblical definition of love. Part of it says that love is long suffering. Break ups hurt like hell, but you have to let yourself go through those feeling to feel better don't bottle them up. It sucks now, and feels like everywhere you go you see couples together. Don't worry things do get better even if it feels like the end of the world right now. ((hugs))

Answer 10

The one main reason to why love hurts so much is because we give our all to the ones that we love and without thinking they could hurt us in the end. when were in love we have a narrow vision, we can't see the signs that they throw at us and we end up getting hit and hurt.