I am happily engaged and love my fiance very much... we are intimate even though we are not married yet, which we both feel is ok. But the thing is, I love making out with him and fooling around, but when we have sex it just isnt enjoyable. I am totally turned on but as soon as we start intercourse, I am in pain and am not feeling any enjoyment. I would like to enjoy it. I dont know what is wrong with me. I have not had any other sexual partners, my fiance is the only one so maybe it is because I am not an expert at it. But if there is any advice out there for helping me enjoy sex I would love to hear it.
2006-08-17 11:31:24 · 35 answers · asked by s..... 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Check out this series of articles. And, speak to your OB/GYN.
In the meantime, you can take good care of each other orally and manually.
2006-08-17 11:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Some women think that size matters, but it doesn't. I say that because every women's body is built differently in the pelvic area which determine what size you can handle, and from the sound of it you may have a small build no matter what size your physical body is. I will say try some K-Y jelly. You may feel like you produce enough juices yourself but it might not be enough. That's why the OBGYN's use it because you will always get an easy glide in with it. He also might need to take things a little slower and try a little love making verses just strait up fuc*king. I don't know how often you guys do it but you need to do it more often so your vagina muscles won't tighten up on you.
And if this makes you feel any better I know it's causing you pain, but it's probably your fiance who's the problem because he has a little more experience than you, but he can't get up in you the way he has gotten up in girls who have had multiple partners.
2006-08-17 11:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be very knowledgable about pleasing a woman's body. You may not be knowledgable about what pleases your own body, so you may not know how to explain to him how you would like to be touched and so on. It is up to both of you to learn it in order to get the satifaction you both want out of intercourse. I don't think there is anything wrong with your body, you just need to play aorund a little more to find the righht areas and how to touch them. It can also be a mental thing. You won't enjoy sex if your mind is somewhere else, or if your so nervous that you don't relax and enjoy the moment and sensations. Those things need to be disscussed together as well. For starters, go to Barnes and Nobles or another book store that talks about sex, sexual technquies, positions, etc. You can learn a lot from those. I, as rediculous as this will sound, learned most of what I wanted to know about giving orgasms to girls by reading the sex sections in some of those Cosmopolitian magazines...those sections about female orgasms. I wanted to make sure I came prepared in bed :)
2006-08-17 11:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. It's possible that you need more foreplay. Are there certain things that he doesn't do for you that you wish he would? If so, tell him. Also, try different positions. Many women enjoy sex more if they are on top. Each position stimulates a different area and you might find pleasure that way. Most importantly, be vocal. Tell him what feels good or what you want him to do. He'll love it. Good luck.
2006-08-17 11:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a simple answer your question. Intercourse should not ever be painful. Maybe you have something internal that is making this painful, or it could be as simple as dryness, which you can cure by a over the counter lubricant. Sounds like a visit with your physician could really help you.
2006-08-17 11:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried new positions.? Maybe the one you're using is not fit for you 2. It can also be the size of his Willy... for real. It might be a little too big for you since he's the only you've been with. Does he know he hurts you....Try being on top while making love, that way you can control how deep he penetrates you.....
2006-08-17 11:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way that women can find enjoyment is being on top. as for the pain.. if its just because he is too hard try making him ejac. before entering (that way its softer) you could also tell him what feels nice and what doesnt, that way he knows what to do to make you have a more enjoyable time.
2006-08-17 11:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having pain during intercourse you should talk to your gyn about it. You might have an infection or other condition which is causing your discomfort. Other than talking to your doctor, you might try differen positions and try different angles with your fiance. Try putting a pillow underneath your butt and experiment with different angles.
2006-08-17 11:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you short? Is his penis long? He might be hurting your insides and not be able to engage the whole penis, which is causing you pain. Also try some KY if it's more just the side that are irritating you. And yes, there is a condition for this. If this fails, I would talk to your doctor.
2006-08-17 11:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need the right guy. No, I am serious. A guy should be sensitive to that. There are things he can do to make it very enjoyable for you as well.
2006-08-17 11:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by ABN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a lot of KY jelly, and try putting a pillow under your butt. Make sure he is taking his time, and remind him that stabbing you to death is not the objective. If slow gentle sex is still painful, see an OB/GYN.
2006-08-17 11:46:13 · answer #11 · answered by Average John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋