im bi and right now i have a boyfriend and im sure my family will hate him and then hate me because hes a guy what should I do?
2006-08-17 11:12:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi there DG. I checked your name and I remember you from your last question. I don't mean to repeat myself here, but the way I feel about it is that if you are both consenting adults and it makes you happy, then what's the problem? Sure there will be pressure on the both of you from the outside. Your family for instance. Infact, I think you're right. Your family may very well be upset with you when you break this to them. That doesn't mean they won't come around. Some people view homosexuals as the devil. It's just a sexual preference though. That's what it all comes down to. Introduce the real you to them and then give them time to get to know the real you. Depending on the type of family you have, it may be a miracle if they accept this lifestyle right there and then with open arms. So be prepared for confrontation and a possible cold shoulder at first. They love you though. That won't change. You will probably just need to give them time to get used to it all.
2006-08-17 11:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your family have a good realationship, nothing should ruin it. BUT if you really need to be out in the open with this. tell them, family isnt always made from blood. Sometimes the best families are the ones you make for yourself
Good luck.. and dont change your lifestyle for anyone
2006-08-17 11:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot open your families mind, but give it time and hopefully they will accept your alternative lifestyle. Talk it over with your family and tell them how you feel and your fears of how they are going to react. They may surprise you and actually be open minded to your choices. Best of luck.
2006-08-17 11:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to change the way they feel about your decisions. Thats the way it is. You cant go around trying to please everyone if you are really just gonna do whatever you want anyway right? But you cant expect anyone else to just put up with you either, everyone has a right to what they feel and believe, just like you do.
2006-08-17 11:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by admyr75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not living with them then screw them its your life and if they want to with hold affection because of who you love then you dont need them in your life!!!!, if you are under 18 /living with or dependent on them I would say tryn to deal with it as quietly as possible untill you can get out on your own then see the first part of my answer, unless your boyfriend is treating you badly then the fact that you are bi might not have anything to do with it (gays and bis can still get into bad relationships and their family can still get as upset about it if that happens to be the case)
2006-08-17 11:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your family aware about your sexuall orientation? I would break that first to them before having boyfriend come over. This doesn't soundeasy, but I wish you good luck!
2006-08-17 11:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by sabina-2004@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself regardless of your family. They will either accept you or won't. It's their choice and you can't change who they are just as they can't change who you are.
You can try to explain how you feel about your sexuality, but if they've made up their minds to block you out at this point, it will be like talking to a wall.
2006-08-17 11:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No PDA when you're around your family. They don't want to know every aspect of your sexuality. Why do you even have to tell them it's your boyfriend? Why don't you just say "This is my friend, John."?? Sometimes parents perfer not to know. It's not like you're getting married to him or anything.
2006-08-17 11:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them some respect, if thats what you would like, them to respect you, it works both ways, if you know its not their scene, dont push him into thier face, be descreet, for now, save any upset, you may be with a girl next month. Its your life, you can do whatever, and so can they, they havent got to like what you choose to do.
2006-08-17 11:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sit down face to face with your parents and let them know that you understand their reasons BUT you love (in love, like) this guy and he feels the same way. explain to them why your like this and that this is the only person that makes you feel this way....
if they don't understand then just keep it on the DL. let them know you're still with him but don't detail them in on your daily life with him.
they need to understand. you do too.
2006-08-17 11:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋