im 15 and im scared guys are going to dump me because im not giving it up...please leave detailed answers
2006-08-17 10:54:36 · 30 answers · asked by Tired_of _the_games 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have to do what you feel is morally right or you will end up feeling used and bad about yourself.
2006-08-17 11:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they probably will. But....only the ones who aren't worth it anyway. Think of it as a "guy filter". The other thing that will happen is that you will not be perceived as "easy" and that will be good. A lot of girls get bad reputations in school because they sleep with so many guys. Then the guys just go out with them to get what they want and then dump them.
So I think what you're doing in the best thing you can do. Other girls might say things about you like you're stuck up or whatever. but they're going to say that about everyone anyway right? And most of the girls will actually be jealous of the standards you have set and kept for yourself. Someday your future husband will thank you. And if your husband is still a virgin on your wedding night you will be really glad you waited, otherwise you would feel guilty about giving away something so important to someone other than him.
2006-08-17 11:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are the men that will dump you for not putting out for them because they just want sexual pleasure from you and are not in the relationship for you, they're just looking for a good time not anything serious. The men that will wait are the ones that are in it for you. Sometimes men will even just dump you right after you have sex with them and go on to the next women. There are men that want to wait till marriage as well. If the man you are dating doesn't respect the fact that you want to wait for marriage then he's not worth your time and you should move on and find someone who will support you in your decisions even if it means that he might not be able to have sex with you. Some will be positive responses and some will be negative responses to your personal decision. The ones with respect towards you will be more positive responses and the men that want just a good time will be the ones with negative responses.
2006-08-17 11:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if a guy dumps you for not "giving it up," he only wants to have sex. He certainly couldn't care less about you or your convictions.
In a forever mate, you look for someone with the same values. It may take you a very LONG time to find someone who respects you enough to wait, but when you do, it will make choosing a life partner that much easier. Best of luck. DON'T SETTLE!
2006-08-17 11:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lola 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are going to dump you because you will not sleep with them then that is all they wanted. You do not need those kind of guys in your life, dont worry they wiIl find another girl to sleep with. If someone really does love you they will stay with you no matter what. I did not wait until I was married but I wish I did. Be strong....
2006-08-17 11:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by undrama queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly am by your side and if you believe in the living God-Jesus Christ- He will honor your choice and reward you for it for He created sex to be something done in marriage.
Jessica Simpson had made the same choice and she was persecuted for it in God only knows how many ways.
Besides, there are many Sexually Transimitted Diseases (STD) out there that if you get them will cause you unbeareable pain and suffering.
I strongly recomend you read the Bible as it is a great source of answering questions.
"But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death."
-Revelation 21:8
2006-08-17 11:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is not put yourself in a situation where your values will be compromised. Tell the guys from the start that you are waiting for the perfect person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Good Choice always good to see kids today trying to keep values and morals a high priority.
2006-08-17 11:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it...anyone that'll dump you because you're up front about your desire to remain a virgin, isn't the kind of person you'd want to be with anyway...
Yes, you are likely to find some guys who will turn from you when they learn that...others will try to sway your decision...
...but you must do what is right for you, not someone else...stick to what's in your heart...and anyone worth being your partner, will respect you and be willing to wait if he wants to be with you badly enough...
2006-08-17 11:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone dumps you because you wont have sex with them then there not worth it! You need to do what is right for you! I have a lot of respect for you sometimes i wish i waited!
2006-08-17 11:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have no regrets once you decide to do it. Lots of girls here on yahoo answers say they regret their first time...It should be a good memory for you. So have patience, try to know as much the guy and if you feel for him and really like him enjoy the moment ... Maybe you won't marry him but you'll have great memories.
2006-08-17 11:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guys you date are not understanding in your personal decision then they are not worthy. I am currently in a relationship and have let my bf know that there will be no sex at all. I too am waiting until I am married. He respects my decision and is very much okay with that. Kudos to you and don't go back on your decision!
2006-08-17 11:01:14 · answer #11 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋