Lazy husband!?

Question

I have this husband who lost his job of 7 years back in February for being late, since then he's been doing tempory construction work. our bills are soooo behind, they turned off our utilities and we switched them back on. I wake up every morning take my little boy to school then I head off to work, when I leave he stays asleep, if i start complaining he gets up pretends to go look for a job then ends up at his mothers house to sleep! he doesn't help around the house if I ask him, he complains. he will not get clothes ready for my little boy, he complains, he will not take out the trash unless he's told, he complains. I ask him to dicipline the older 2 daughters and he threatens to do it but doesnt. All he does is sleep and watch tv ALL DAY LONG!!!! what do i do? Help me in san antonio

Answer 1

he wants to act like a kid treat him like one when you get up wake him up whenyou get home and the house is dirty dont cook for him just your son he wont help with the laundry dont do his leave them in the hamper and take his house key from him tell him when you leave he leaves tell him you want the applications brought back to you you fill them out and on your way to work drop them off

Answer 2

He sounds depressed. I would look into free counseling . Going for 7 years without a job can make you depressed , insecure and it makes you more undesirable to hire.
As far as looking for a job, He needs a plan, like a set amount of people he contacts everyday, a set amount of resumes he sends out and when he done then he can sleep. If he has goals that he attains everyday, he will feel a little more successful and motivated.He also needs to join some voluteer groups to makes friends that may have job contacts- like something through the kids school.

Answer 3

your husband does sound depressed but you still need to apply some tough love. Give him a time line. Tell him he has a certain time to get a job or at least help out more with the kids and house. let him know that you love him but you will no longer stand for his laziness. you have your children to think about. if he does not change after say 1 month then put his butt out. trust me he will change when he becomes homeless

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear that you are carrying such a heavy load.

It almost sounds like he has given up all together.

Maybe his dad can have a "talk" with him. Or his mom. Or maybe you need to pack up the kids and move on until he is ready to come back to reality and take on some responsibility.

Answer 5

Oh god You poor poor woman!! I feel terrible for you! I actually know a woman who has a husband that is way worse than yours! ( hard to believe) well you might have to stop doing things for him( if you have not already) like cooking his dinner, washing his clothes. I don't know what else to say but talk **** to him!! you have to be a thorn in his *ss until he changes!! The very best of luck to you!!!!

Answer 6

Seems like you're self sufficient, thanks to your deadbeat husband. The thing is, you can't force people to change, and unless you do something drastic, they won't be motivated to do anything. I think you should tell him that you've had enough of his laying around and that if he doesn't contribute anytime soon, you'll leave him and ask for child support. You're better off without him.

Answer 7

You should get a job, let him play mom for a while, that'll fix him. I'll bet within a week he'll find a new job!

Answer 8

well it seems you got a bad guy. my wife works and I also work but I do all the house work all she has to do is go to work. I am sure there are more guys out there like me

Answer 9

Tell him to get a job or your leaving with your son.

Answer 10

well your problem is you got a boy not a man! and the fact that y'all might be from texas explains it all. do yourself a favor and walk out, he will only bring you down. AND MOM ISN'T HELPING EITHER!