So I just like 2 minutes ago found this out and I don't know if I would be wrong to blame my boyfriend pending the test results.
The story: I have a co-worker who I know sleeps another woman besides his wife. His wife just descovered she has an STD. Now her husband believes she got it from him, and he got it from his mistress, who got it from her husband, who initially got it from my boyfriends ex-girlfriend!! Of course I haven't told my boyfriend the entire chain he just knows my co-workers wife has it. I am getting tested and if I find out I got a disease from my boyfriend who told me he was clean do I have the right to be mad at him?? I trusted him when he told me he was clean....
2006-08-17 10:42:09 · 6 answers · asked by ~cuddles~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, there are two things going on. One is that your co-worker "believes" his wife got the STD from him, and then the whole ugly daisy-chain back to your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend.
Is he sure of this? Could his wife be cheating on HIM? (Why not? There isn't a whole lot of sexual integrity in this sorry parade...) So it's possible that his mistress didn't get it from her husband who therefore didn't get it from your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend, meaning your boyfriend may not even HAVE it.
But there's another solution. Could your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend have contracted the disease after breaking up with your boyfriend?
And here's a third. If your boyfriend DID have it when he was with the ex-girlfriend who slept with your co-worker's mistress' husband, did he know it? It's the whole "what did he know and when did he know it" issue. If he KNEW that he had an STD when he told you he was clean, then you should cut his privates off and feed them to the weasels.
But diseases don't always present reliably on schedule. So it's entirely possible that he had the disease (as did his ex-girlfriend Typhoid Mary), but didn't know it. Maybe SHE didn't know it either. (The actual "Typhoid Mary" was exactly such a case -- she was carrying typhoid fever and infected hundreds of people, without showing any of the symptoms herself.)
So I'd hold off on throwing a complete screaming fit just yet. It's possible that your boyfriend doesn't have it because your co-worker's wife caught it from someone else. It's possible that your boyfriend's ex-girlfriend caught it after they broke up. It's possible that he had it when they were together but didn't know it. And it's possible that he had it, knew it, and lied to you about it. The response in each of those four scenarios is very different -- intense relief in the first two, anger but forgiveness in the third, and full-on nuclear war in the fourth.
2006-08-17 11:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be mad ONLY if he already knew. You can also be half as mad at him if he didn't, becaue basically he lied by not being tested anyway. You should try to explain it to him in a way that makes it seem like you are not accusing and he will be more likely to tell the truth.
2006-08-17 17:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by katiej47 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can blame him! You asked him and he said he was clean. What I think is he lied about he has done a test and is clean. When somebody isn't honest than you can blame them when it has turn out to be a lie
2006-08-17 17:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by ngatinicostes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No since you chose to trust him and that decision was strictly your own. He may not have known he had anything at the time.
2006-08-17 17:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Steve S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, then kick his AA$$ to the kick curb, you don't need that kind of shiit.
2006-08-17 17:51:47 · answer #5 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, be mad at him.
2006-08-17 17:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by softball_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋