2006-08-17 10:38:38 · 47 answers · asked by Steve C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, i don't think so, and i'm a girl about the same age as you. save yourself for someone good, k?
2006-08-17 10:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by deer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, before I answer, I would have to ask how do you determine what is "bad" or "good." Prevalent popular opinion may swing one way or the other depending upon the people you ask at any given time. If you are wondering if you are "healthy" psychologically and emotionally for your age at 18, I would say that virginity or the lack thereof is not the real issue, although it can play a part. I would ask you if you want to be good or bad first. If you decide you want to be good and you are willing to pay a price to do so, then a man has more self-control if he can maintain his virginity than if he cannot, at least on one level. On the other hand, if you are a virgin because you tend to be shy with women and don't date much, then maybe you need to work on your social skills to be able do have more courage to get to know women (although I don't mean necessarily becoming physical with them). There's no need to rush things with relationships. Better to take time to choose wisely than be quick and regret it later. I am personally a virgin and I'm 37 and I know I need to grow in different ways and I am in counseling to become "good" or hopefully better at least psychologically and emotionally. I am happy for you that you are a virgin and I hope your greatest goal is to be the best you can be, even if it costs you. From what I understand of the statistics on sexual activity prior to and outside of the marriage relationship, it doesn't increase a person's health or marriage (or future marriage) but weakens it. So, chastity before marriage and within it is probably the best way to go. It also honors God, who created sex in the first place. So, to answer your question, I would say, yes, it's good for you to be a virgin, but it is not the only indicator that you are healthy psychologically or not. If you are truly committed to being a "good" person and healthy, I would recommend either talking to a licensed therapist you trust or maybe start reading books on relationships from trusted authors. I might recommend the book Boundaries in Dating or the book Safe People, both by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend as a starter for you. Hope that helps.
2006-08-17 11:04:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having casual sex is dangerous since there are many diseases that can cause infertility, and even death. Make sure when you do have sex, you wear a condom, until you are ready for marriage. Make sure you don't sleep with your neighbor, because, you may regret it and have to see her everyday. So, find someone who sparks your interest, and likes to experiment. Your inexperience has nothing to do with your intellegence, looks, or economic factors, it is basically finding the right person. Maybe you haven't made the effort to find someone to share your experiences with. Don't think that women have given up hope on you, women are easy to persuade into a relationship. So, make your moves on someone you really care about, and stay in the relationship for a LONG (4 to 10 years) before you decide on having children. Becuase you will be financially stable enough to provide a secure, and peaceful environment for your wife, and siblings to grow. This will cause your marriage to bloom into a coexistence you can share with your spouse for your entire life. And please don't make any rational decisions, before asking someone first, (And not your best friend.. Ask someone who isn't biased on your relationships).
2006-08-17 10:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's totally fine that you're still a virgin. It's fine to be a virgin at any age.
Rushing into sex isn't always a good thing. If you're cool with still being a virgin then don't think twice about it.
2006-08-17 10:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very good your still a virgin. You should stay that way until u met the girl of ur dreams and marry her. If you ever read the bible it says to stay a virgin untill your married. To alot of religous girls its a big turn on too.
2006-08-17 10:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mae-Day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I was until 20.
2006-08-17 10:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is like totally cool I wish I had waited now i've got a 2 year old and I'm a single divorced mom. So keep it and by the way sex is really over rated it's not all that its made out to be.
2006-08-17 10:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by MISSREBEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. i was a virgin until i was 20 when I married my wife. we had been together for four years and are coming up on our two year anniversary next Monday. it will be great to tell kids and grandkids and not be lieing about it.
2006-08-17 10:45:01 · answer #8 · answered by bigdaddysur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virgin! Virgin! Virgin Alert! Virgin! Virgin!!!
2006-08-17 10:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by Bow down to me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you kidding? Who made the rules on when you need to lose your virginity?? No, you don't need help! Be proud and wait for that special someone ;)
2006-08-17 10:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all
im actually plannin on waitin till im 19 to loose mine
and right now im 16
bein a virgin actually turns some girls on
but u might want to loose it to someone experiance
or not
ur choice
just choose wisely
at least thats what everyone tells me
2006-08-17 10:54:10 · answer #11 · answered by tb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋