How can you figure out if God made you a soulmate or is calling you to be single?

Question

If God calls you to be single, will he not give you a desire to have a mate? Any ideas on how to find your soul mate- assuming of course he isn't calling you to be single

Answer 1

God doesn't "call you" to be one or the other. He leaves THAT DECISION "to you." The Bibles says that decision is left to the person to decide. In that "one can find it easier to remain single than another." While "another NEEDS to be married." So, its all in who YOU are. Only you can know whether you will be able to go through life without sex, while it maybe NECESSARY for someone else to get married so that they can have sex and children.

This is why God doesn't "call us" but lets us decide. Only we can know what we need in our lives.

PS the reason that "remaining single" would be a blessing is to do his preaching work "without distraction." That is, to be able to "go anywhere or do anything required without worrying about your family" as many single missionaries do. This is the reason for remaining single.

Answer 2

There is nothing in the Bible about the concept of the soul mate or the One or any of that. God basically says do whatever you think best. It's Paul who does most of the teaching, Jesus says a few things that make the disciples question whether or not they ever want to get married, but it boils down to this. Are you capable of fully serving God without a mate. Or does sexual desire, or just the desire for marital companionship so distract you that it's something that needs to be resolved before you can continue serving God. That's how you can know whether or not you've been gifted to be single. That is the Biblical answer. 1 Corinthians 7

Answer 3

You will always have a desire to mate because you're human, and humans have animal instincts. Nobody has to be alone in this life, and soul mates are a very lucid concept. I've heard that some believe that there are at least 7 soul mates for every person, assuming soul mates are real. You can have a connection like that with many people in your life.

Answer 4

All Children of God are soul mates. If you are patient with the process God will give you the desires of your heart. I don't believe God cares if you are married or single because either way, if it is real you are married to Him too. If He feels that it could be a stumbling block to your walk with Him He may delay things until your are grounded in your faith. He wll then lead you to your wife. the prerequsite is to be equally yolked to another believer. Not only should you be likeminded in Christ but I recommend being on the same degree of understanding. That will definitly take God's hand because He knows us better then we do, and will not lead us into a bad relationship.

Answer 5

I think you just have to wait. You can't tell in advance. You can date and realize that individuals aren't your soul mate. I think that's pretty much it too. I don't think you need to go looking for your soul mate. If you're meant to be with someone, you'll find each other. And if your relationship is God-centered, affectionate, pure, and strong, then there's your soul mate. Pray about it and then let God handle it.

Answer 6

I don't know if he actually calls anyone to be single because the Bible says that it is not good that man(kind) should be alone, and to avoid fornication let every man have a wife and every woman have a husband. Marriage is an institution created by God and if this is something you desire, you should pray about it and trust Him to give you the desires of your heart.

Answer 7

If you desire (lust after) the thought of a lifetime mate, then you are very much not being called to be single.

If you are comfortable around women/men, but find no strong urge to connect with one, you may be being called to be single, or you simply have not yet met the woman that God has chosen for you.

many people stay single for a very long time and believe that they are and were called to be single, and they very well could have been for that certain time in their lives, but then one day they find that they have fallen in Love and want to spend the rest of their days with someone and boom, called to be married.

Its all in Gods timing, not ours. It only gets messed up when we apply our own timing instead of Gods.

Answer 8

E-harmony.com. I dont think you can plan to find your soulmate. It just happens. Like finding $50.00 on the street. Also, God has a way pf giving us exactly what we need when we need it.

Relax, dont be in such a hurry to find the righ one and then bam, there he or she will be.

If all else fails, you can drop the soulmate bit and just get a mate.

Answer 9

I'm not so sure God would "call" his children to be single, not many of them anyway unless he gave them another distinct calling that would not allow them to give their best to a marriage/relationship. The term "soulmate" is so overused to me. I think that God wants for us to be "equally yoked" with someone who also puts God first and I think that if you are patient and observant you can find someone who shares your same principles and love of God. Any marriage is a work in progress but if God is the true head of your household and the bottom line in your relationships, you can develop into "soulmates" over time. My personal belief is that God wants us to be happy and find someone else to share life with. If you heart and body cry out for a mate then I think He intends for you to find one!

Answer 10

A soul-mate isn't always your life partner, nor the person you're going to marry. A soul-mate could just be a really good friend. It's a person that you find in your life, where your souls are inseperable.