guys are so Confusing!!?

Question

I'm 5'6", I'm Funny, I'm Caring, Iget Straight a's, I have Long Legs, I ave Long Legs, I'm Atheletic, I Have an Atheletic Body. I Have Long Brown Hair. Why Doesnt Anyone Notices Me. But My Sister Who Has A Big Rack, Blonde Hair And Isnt Smart. Shes Boring To Hang Around Wioth, And Shes Short. And Every Guys Checks Her OUt. WTF? Somebody Explain.

Answer 1

Men are simple animals, women are the complex ones.

By nature men are biologically geared toward reproduction. They can reproduce quickly and often, so a picture of a pretty woman is often enough to get them hot. Women need more they require a relationship. Biology gears them to want to carry a child to term and raise it until it is adult. This is why a picture of a hot man isn't enough for most women, they want more.

One problem with women is that since they have character depth and a complex nature they think that men do as well. Trust me, men are pretty simple creatures. If your sister is getting more people checking her out then she makes a more “attractive package.” The most important thing to a man is their first glance. If the “package” looks attractive then they will try to strike up a conversation. Of course if they do it then they are only looking for sex. Men don't make friends with women just to be friends; they are looking for potential partners. Like I said men are pretty simple creatures.

I answered a question recently: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlJOQDtQrvHw.ph3pmXVGsjsy6IX?qid=20060816102755AAboHaj
From a woman who had an "attractive package." She was getting more male attention than she wanted, and she wasn't getting the kind of attention she wanted. I suggested that she try for a more business look. A professional look would transform her from a "hot chick" to a "beautiful woman." Check out the responses to her question for some possible tips.

To attract a guy you need to present a better "package." I am not saying that you are ugly, if you have a sister who is considered hot, then you should be hot as well. However, your sister does have some things going for her. Shorter women appeal to more men, because even the short ones want to feel like they are protecting her. Blondes seem to be rarer and so more desirable. Many men are attracted by large breasts; again it is all due to biology. A "big rack" means that a woman can support a large family, so biology makes men pay more attention to large breasts.

To get the attention of more men try some makeup and dressing hints from Cosmopolitan. There is a version published for younger women, and you should look for that. You could even get a free subscription in the Coke Rewards campaign: http://mcr.us.icoke.com/. Have you considered dying your hair blonde? Yes it could drop your IQ by 10-20 points (or at least that is the stereotype), but it will make you seem to be more attractive. Look at how your sister dresses. You may want to push the school dress codes a little. Since you didn’t refer to your “rack” you may be a late bloomer, but genetics is in your favor and they should blossom some day. Being funny, smart and caring is a good way to keep a male's attention, but not to attract it. You can't wear your report card or your resume on your forehead. It may sound crass, but men are attracted by their first image; everything else is secondary.

One really big factor is how your think of yourself. I have always said the most dangerous person in the world is a pretty woman that knows she is pretty. She will get all the attention and she can bend those men like pretzels. If you think you are pretty, then you will be prettier. Makeup and clothes make a good start, but your attitude will top it all off. Look at all those movies like The Devil Wears Prada, where a plain woman, an ugly duckling, turns into a beautiful woman. Yes, she has Hollywood professionals behind her, but if you look at the ugly duck version then you can see how that actress could look in real life. When they “glam up” the change can be startling. The biggest factor though is that these women know they can be pretty, and when the transformation is made they act like pretty women.

You may even want to do something daring. Most women wear red or dark lipstick now days. Try for pink, something that is pretty, but will make you stand out more. A lot of men may not even notice the pink lipstick, but they could notice you more.

Gibbler is being a bit simplistic. Most men aren't morons, they just use their smallest head to do most of their thinking for them.

Novato is wrong, almost all men think with their head below the waste. cjs JRS and portlandutb503 are right most men just want sex. That is all they are on the hunt for. Once you have a man it is up to you to use your intelligence, your carrying attitude and other traits to keep that man's attention. Remember that you attract the kind of men that you dress for. If you dress like a "loose" women then that is the kind of man who you will attract.

Answer 2

The type of men your sister attracts aren't the type of men .. you want anyway ... !

You're not missing out on anything ... dating in high school I think is a waste of time ... it's all about popularity and school status ... if you want to be noticed ... just wait ... one day a nice guy who likes you for who you are and not what you look like will come around and sweep you off your feet ... trust me you have all the qualities a good man will want ... smart, attractive, athletic, great personality ... etc ... it just takes more time for some then others ... !

Sounds to me as if you're just looking for attention ... which isn't always the best thing to want ... !

Answer 3

Guys are idiots. No, really, I've conducted research on the matter of the male species' intelligence and overall brain capacity.The results have vastly favored the conclusion that guys are just plain, ol' dumb human beings. Now, females? We're a whole different experiment...

Anyway, because guys are basically morons (with hardly any exceptions), they go after your sister and not you. It's not you, darlin', it's the lack of brain power in the opposite gender.

Yet, one good apple would emerge from all the rotten ones, and he'll have some brain cells to see you for who you are... Dam*, I sound so mushy-gushy. Let's stick to guys being total jacka$$es!!

Now and then,
the Gibbler

Answer 4

The guys that are checking her out aren't interested in her personality. Does it really matter, would you want someone that only wants to check out your package only in hopes of getting a little.
There's not much to explain, look at T.V, magazines, movies....
it's all about the female body....some things have to be big, while others have to be small. Although if some things are big enough they can over look some of the other things.

Answer 5

If u aren't the perfect gurl(in guys eyes)then there not gonna holla at u...but look when u do meet someone they will love u for all of those characteristics that u just listed...so dont worry about guys not talkin to u just think about it like this....since ur smart ur the one that the guys will keep but ur sister they will just fck and then duck....i had to keep it real

Answer 6

i have the same problem!!
i acually think it comes from the smart thing (not the short vs. tall)
guys dont like girls that they have to work for...smart girls naturally are going to be a little harder to get then the ones that don't have brains..I finally found a guy that was willing to work and that's how he explained it to me...and then he moved but whatever...
Just know, in the long run you are going to get the better guy, the one that loves you enough to work for your affection.
Good luck

Answer 7

I feel sorry for you in the fact that even you place looks above what real men look for. Give this time. At this point your sister is in the lead, but lets wait and see who you both end up with.

Answer 8

not many guys think with their head other than the one between their legs. those guys dont apreciate smart,funny,atlectic funny women. most of them are afraid cuz maybe they think you too much for them.maybe they be like thats too much i wont even a had a chance with her.
i get the same with ladies too. they like the guys the sameway you describe you sister. no offend.

Answer 9

probably the big rack and that equals a sure thing. Maybe your sister is more fun to be around - who knows?! You sould like you are jealous of her

Answer 10

Don't be jealous that your sister is attracting a bunch of creeps and perverts who only want her for her boobs. Hold out for a real man who will be attracted to you because of your inner beauty. They are out there....you might just have to wait a little longer. But it will be worth it and you'll be far happier.